• Pistcow@lemmy.world
    120·
    4 months ago

    Goth girl i worked with at Tacobell in college, I guess, was flirting with me often? She gave me this burned CD, and her music was weird, so I just threw it in my binder. Years later, I finally listened to it, and it was all songs about having sex.

    I think she might have been interested in me?

  • XM34@feddit.orgEnglish
    24·
    4 months ago

    Meh, had this too often. The moment I make a move they usually withdraw. Nowadays I let people know that if they’re interested, hints won’t cut it. Either ask me out or stop that shit. I’ve had enough rejections to the point where I’d rather stay single than go through this hell again. ✌️

  • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
    211·
    4 months ago

    If it’s meant to be, they’ll speak up and say, “I’m interested in a date, what are you doing this friday?” or something along those lines, just like I would if I was interested in someone as a potential partner.

    Signs/signals/asstrology charts/ouija boards that mysteriously spell out words like kiss, sex, or date… these things are for middle school. I’ve got better things to do.

  • Cyrus Draegur@lemmy.zipEnglish
    201·
    4 months ago

    No. Once bitten twice shy, and I got bitten over and over again. Falling in love with every person who was nice to me in high school was a massive mistake and caused nothing but hardship. The last two decades have been relatively peaceful because I don’t buy it anymore. Fuck reading between the lines, fuck hints, fuck signals and vibes. I’m never acting unless I receive DIRECT CLEARLY EXPRESSED FREELY GIVEN ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT and not a moment sooner.

    I will never trust my ““intuition”” ever again.

    • sqgl@sh.itjust.works
      72·
      4 months ago

      Intuition does not help when it is a woman giving signs in order to reassure herself that she is attractive but with zero intention of accepting a request for a date.

      • Cyrus Draegur@lemmy.zipEnglish
        2·
        4 months ago

        Actually, you know, I could afford to keep that in mind more often. I’ve suffered with poor self esteem in the past myself, and so I know just about everyone can use reassurance sometimes. It’s just a matter of figuring out how to validate someone else’s insecurity without creeping them out and also without becoming an enabling crutch that they lean on more than is healthy or appropriate.

        Empathy can be toxic if I’m misreading, too… It’s possible to honestly believe I’m attempting to reassure someone and end up saying something that only exacerbates their insecurities x_x I don’t even know how it turns out like that, probably because I’m just not very good or practiced at socializing. But usually I’ve tended to err on the side of caution and keep my mouth shut.

        I dunno. I’ll have to think on it more as to whether or not I want to try proactively engaging on that again now…

    • potoooooooo ✅️@lemmy.worldEnglish
      42·
      4 months ago

      Last year I got hit on by a young woman in my neighbourhood. She started by asking me for some rice because she didn’t have any left (that might have been an excuse). When I came back 5mn later with a bag, she simply asked me if I wanted to play with her. I told her I was married and went home, but I liked her approach. No room for ambiguity. She must have been 20 something, so it’s not a matter of age at least. Maybe maturity.

  • kameecoding@lemmy.world
    8·
    4 months ago

    I have realized one day that years ago when she invited me in for a beer after a night out when I went to pickup my sunglasses that I left with her, it probably wasn’t about the beer, though to be fair to me, I thought she was still seeing this guy I knew so I basically had that part of my brain turned off around her.

  • HugeNerd@lemmy.ca
    61·
    4 months ago

    Can I teleport an apostrophe into that possessive pronoun to transform it into the appropriate contraction?