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Cake day: December 15th, 2025

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  • [Brazil] More or less the same, but with better prospects.

    My childhood was better and way more comfortable than both my parents, who clawed their way out of rural poverty and into a decently paying, high school level jobs as bank clerks (they met working at the bank), in which they stayed until retirement. The married and had children later than their peers (they hadn’t meet at my age), so they had good savings in store.

    I went into a great public university and decided to follow an academic career (just finished my master’s). This means I already have way more educational opportunities than they ever did. On the other side, my finances are way less stable, going from stipend to stipend in temporary scholarships and research grants. This is aggravated by the fact I got a partner who relied on my income for years while she tried to overcome depression, finish her graduate course and get a job. Now she got all three, and for her, who came from real poverty, this already means she is way better than her parents (her father never finished elementary school and her mother got pregnant of her at 17 and abandoned high school).

    Now I’m looking for a more stable job outside of academia, and I hope the as soon as I get it, with both our incomes, our financial lives will start getting better. It might take a while for us to have the means to have a child, but we expect to have less children than our parents (I’m the middle child of three, she is the oldest of four siblings), so this might be easier.

    We also have 4 cats, which is a plus in any life.