Doing stuff. Exercise, learning, projects, etc.

I can’t understand people who want to do nothing. As in, sit there passively and watch a screen and/or drink and complain about their life. I feel like a lot of people do this and it is why they are miserable and unhappy. At least that’s how it comes across to me. I only ever want to do that if I’m exhausted, injured, or sick. In fact I most of the last month watching TV because I was injured, and then very ill for about a total of 3 weeks. It was super depressing/miserable, I also was so weak I had to get delivery of meals/groceries. Blows my mind that many people I meet want to be like that 24/7, like I went on a date two weeks ago with a lady and she said 3 weeks sitting around doing nothing sounded blissful to her… I was going absolutely insane.

I find it hard to make friends because I want to do things and most people… don’t. Most of my friends are very active people, but it feels like the vast majority of socialization among people is just complaining and drinking. My Thanksgiving holiday was 3 days of listening to people complain, watch sports, and drink.

I have on a regular basis. So much so I quit a lot of stuff to avoid their endless insane stupidity and their raw emotional takes that are totally delusional.

nah this is exactly why i gave up a lot of social stuff. too many bubble-brain idiots who become violent the second they hear an opinion or an idea that they mildly disagree with. it’s not just young people either.

i never dealt with such craziness 10+ years ago, but it started exploding with social media growth and is rampant now.

we only ever put the heat above 64 if we had comnpany and that was to 68.

never had central AC my entire life.

isn’t that because of taylor swift?

i don’t record anything. people tell me i’m a selfish asshole or i’m a liar if i don’t have vids or pics of stuff that i did.

because you’re buying cheap non stick stuff.

you can. it’s just a lot of work. you also have to clean it without soap.

cast iron isn’t ‘easy’ to use or maintain.

non stick is fine if it’s seasoned or anodized.

i have anodized non stick and it’s worked for over a decade. it’s not cheap though, easily $80 a pot/pan.

Everything has it’s pros and cons. There is no ‘better’. A stocked kitchen will have variety of different cookware types, a professional kitchen will have more than one heat type as well. most people for whatever reason, only use one cookware type and convince themselves it’s the ‘best’, but that isn’t true at all. i’ve taken professional cooking classes and they use every type of cookware and tell you to but certain types for certain styles/dishes.

choose your heat source first, then your cookware. non-ferrous cookware won’t work on induction stoves.

personally i have non stick, stainless steel, cast iron, and ceramic. i don’t bother with carbon steel because i don’t do high heat cooking that works best with it. i have a couple of basic alloy stock pots too, because they are lighter.

most of my fun subs got you insta banned from more serious subs becauase no joking or mockery of weirdos was allow. had to separate out my accounts. even then I’d have crazy reddit weirdos stalking me and reporting my comments on other subs trying to get me banned for one comment i said in their sub.

lemmy.world is the least aggresive with moderation i have seen. i’ve been banned from other instances, mostly for not agreeing with politics or linking to factual sources that don’t agree with their narrative.

i have never been banned from anything on .world.

somewhat. early reddit was a lot more mainstream. it was mostly a link aggregator for news stories in its early days and subreddits were not really a thing until later. i started using it in 2007 and it was much different by 2010.

the dominant ideology was also libertarian and auti-authoritarian, not extreme leftism of various flavors that are pro authoritarian. there was very much a lack of controlling the narrative and language policing… that didn’t take hold until mid 2010s as the reddit ‘scandals’ caused the admins to start cracking down.

life is reductive. it’s not my job to have ‘empathy’ for militant losers who sit around flipping between whining about their lives and then engaging in violent political fantasizing about how they will kill the non believers to the communist cause to usher in the utopia.

because most lemmy users are extreme leftists who think everyone is a fascist. i am a facist and a nazi according to lemmy. and think think nothing of harassing and banning anyone who doesn’t agree with them. at least here i can on be banned on the .ml or extremist instances, not lemmy wide.

if there is anything i’ve learned, online or not. miserable people hate anyone who isn’t as miserable as they are and will harass and insult you for not being miserable just like them.

for example, i like my job. this makes a lot of people immediately hostile to me when they find out because they hate their job.

remember when social media was just stupid shit your friends were doing? and there were no influencers?

can’t agree enough. most of the focus is on the performative bullshit, not enough on actual policy that might result in a positive goal.

i remember how many ukraine flag people were ‘against giving ukraine more weapons because war is bad and people will die’…

same with the trans stuff the past few years. most of the people who freaked out about pronouns are the same types who refuse to vote because ‘voting is pointless’ or voting is ‘supporting the system’. also if you actaully wanted to talk about trans issues… you were a bigot. talking about it makes you a bigot.

Having no clue why everyone is so upset all the time and agonizing about how unfair and cruel the world is.

because the interface is archiac, and the majority of topics are extremist.

normal people see the front page of lemmy and they see a bunch of weirdos going on about linux, communism, and trans stuff.

any of the big threads with 100s of comments are full of crazies going off about violence and hate towards mainstream political positions and lifestyles.

i am ‘mainstream’ and i have to block multiple users per day because i get constantly harassed by nutcases telling me how evil i am for using windows/mac, being a socialist democrat, and driving a car to work. if you disagree with the militant doomer wannabe revolutionaries you’re not going to have a good time here.