• Especially_the_lies@startrek.website
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    1 year ago

    Uhhh, I’m a Xennial and this hits hard. I am basically paying for her mortgage with the amount of money I have to give my ex every month. She has always had zero ambition, so I was always getting raises, and by the time we split, our finances were in two very different places, so the court said I have the luxury of paying her monthly just to be rid of her.

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      1 year ago

      You got screwed then if you’re in the usa, spousal alimony is basically non-existent. Most states don’t have it anymore and those that do have it for about a year.

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        1 year ago

        I’m well aware of how screwed I got… I’m hoping that in the next year or so I’ll be able to re-litigate with a different lawyer. I was so desperate to get out of that marriage, I took some bad advice.

        My biggest problem is that my life hasn’t been the most stable since I left her. The sick amount of money I have to give her every month certainly hasn’t helped.

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          1 year ago

          Does she work? What state are you in? You shouldn’t be paying her at all really. Alimony has really lost its teeth in the last 10 years.

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        1 year ago

        I got screwed too, because we have a child. If he has one, he is screwed until the kid finishes college or is 25 yo.

        He also pays in full even if he has 50% custody. Here in america, woman good man bad.

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          1 year ago

          Certainly it sounds like you’re bad.

          It’s your kid, why shouldn’t you be happily paying for his or her life?