• philycheeze@sh.itjust.works
    17·
    3 days ago

    Is there some kind of write-up or TL;DR for what “Catholic dating culture” is? How is it distinct from Protestant or any other Christian dating culture?

    • dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPEnglish
      24·
      3 days ago
      • marriage is awesome enough to warrant active effort in dating if one is called to marriage, but not at all costs
      • standards can be good, even if it means staying single
      • no shame or moral inferiority in being single, regardless of age
      • marriage almost always should be with another catholic
      • no premarital sex or cohabitation
      • dating is for finding future spouse, but there’s not too much rush in determining whether or not someone is that future spouse
      • relatively wide variety in how long a couple dates before deciding to marry
      • normal to date in high school, but some people are against it, and some actively encourage it

      Edit: i forgot to mention agape

      • Swordgeek@lemmy.ca
        1·
        8 hours ago

        Swap Catholic for almost any Abrahamic religion here, and it would still hold true.

        This is identical to what my relatives in the Dutch Reform church accept. It’s not Catholic dating culture.

      • philycheeze@sh.itjust.works
        5·
        3 days ago

        Aside from points 4 and 6 I don’t see how that could be specific to Catholics? Maybe I was raised too catholic to tell the difference though.

        • dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPEnglish
          21·
          3 days ago

          I didn’t limit to only what’s specific to Catholics. Also, I’ve heard that Mormons think it’s a big deal to still not be married at a certain age because it affect which level of Heaven you enter.

          • philycheeze@sh.itjust.works
            7·
            3 days ago

            Well my question was for clarification on the Catholic Dating Culture.

            Your bullet points do not address that and as such you are not giving enough context to enable any kind of real answer from those of us who don’t know what you’re talking about. I tried searching for some kind of definition on my own but that only produces religious focused dating blogs.

            • dullbananas (Joseph Silva)@lemmy.caOPEnglish
              22·
              3 days ago

              Some of the listed things mean that Catholics might put more effort into finding someone, compared to secular dating. Also, people seem to see insanity in how Catholic dating connects to marriage, but I don’t know exactly how that’s perceived. I might not be familiar enough with other dating cultures to know what is relevant.