My mom found porn on my computer in high school so my parents decided it would be a good idea to sit the whole family down and talk about what she found and what new restrictions the Internet would have for us all.
Turns out that restrictions on porn for high schoolers don’t work and just make them more… creative. That was my first taste of learning about IT haha so maybe I should actually thank them.
My mother told me it is okay and totally normal to be interested in these things but it is important that I understand the difference between fiction like this and reality.
Now I sit at work googling character ideas for dnd so it is safe to say, this did not work out
So something that always bothered me: do we legally have to put restrictions on their access? Like I clearly can’t claim ignorance to knowing how its possible, and since my son is a minor, it’s illegal to provide access to the content.
I would rather put up layers that he figures out how to work around since that’s how I learned so much too.
That’s actually an interesting question. As far as I can tell, while it is illegal to show minors porn, I don’t think parents are on the hook of their children access it. Common sense would argue that a parent can install all the filters they can, but kids are crafty and nothing will stop a teenage boy from taking care of business, though I’m sure some religious state reps/senators would say otherwise. But, to your point, I don’t believe parents incur liability from their kids looking up boobs online, especially without their knowledge. Now if a sicko parent is actively showing kids naughty videos, that definitely is a crime.
Not every parent knows how to enforce that kind of control, and no matter what you do, there will be loopholes.
Bajillion porn sites blocked? Oh look, he’s now getting his porn off a Telegram or Discord channel! Blocked those, too? “Hey, school friend, can you email me some stuff? Yeah, my parents blocked nearly everything, only email opens”
As the other poster said, the only thing parents should not do is facilitate access, encourage or show porn to their kids, for obvious reasons. Ideally, parents should educate their kids, “Yeah, that stuff is for show, actual sex is very different. Work your cardio and don’t skip leg day if you wanna impress your partner when you start having sex. Use a fucking condom, too.”
Painfully awkward as it might be I can maybe respect the idea of discussion with the child, but why the fuck did she make everyone else party to it? She could have kept it between you and her or maybe the another significant parental figure. Like, was this discussion had in with and in front of your siblings? Fucking mortifying.
My mom found porn on my computer in high school so my parents decided it would be a good idea to sit the whole family down and talk about what she found and what new restrictions the Internet would have for us all.
Turns out that restrictions on porn for high schoolers don’t work and just make them more… creative. That was my first taste of learning about IT haha so maybe I should actually thank them.
My mother told me it is okay and totally normal to be interested in these things but it is important that I understand the difference between fiction like this and reality.
Now I sit at work googling character ideas for dnd so it is safe to say, this did not work out
Props to her for handling it the right way though.
Yea, reality is the one that sucks.
And it sucks real good, too
So something that always bothered me: do we legally have to put restrictions on their access? Like I clearly can’t claim ignorance to knowing how its possible, and since my son is a minor, it’s illegal to provide access to the content.
I would rather put up layers that he figures out how to work around since that’s how I learned so much too.
That’s actually an interesting question. As far as I can tell, while it is illegal to show minors porn, I don’t think parents are on the hook of their children access it. Common sense would argue that a parent can install all the filters they can, but kids are crafty and nothing will stop a teenage boy from taking care of business, though I’m sure some religious state reps/senators would say otherwise. But, to your point, I don’t believe parents incur liability from their kids looking up boobs online, especially without their knowledge. Now if a sicko parent is actively showing kids naughty videos, that definitely is a crime.
https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/showing-porn-to-a-minor-is-it-a-crime-48946
Not every parent knows how to enforce that kind of control, and no matter what you do, there will be loopholes.
Bajillion porn sites blocked? Oh look, he’s now getting his porn off a Telegram or Discord channel! Blocked those, too? “Hey, school friend, can you email me some stuff? Yeah, my parents blocked nearly everything, only email opens”
As the other poster said, the only thing parents should not do is facilitate access, encourage or show porn to their kids, for obvious reasons. Ideally, parents should educate their kids, “Yeah, that stuff is for show, actual sex is very different. Work your cardio and don’t skip leg day if you wanna impress your partner when you start having sex. Use a fucking condom, too.”
Painfully awkward as it might be I can maybe respect the idea of discussion with the child, but why the fuck did she make everyone else party to it? She could have kept it between you and her or maybe the another significant parental figure. Like, was this discussion had in with and in front of your siblings? Fucking mortifying.