I have no fucking clue how to do small talk. I tend to get too serious too fast and feel very incompetent and overwhelmed with this kind of almost meaningless noise. So it either ends in awkward silence or in me saying something too heavy for that kind of conversation, which tends to make things awkward as well.
Example, option A:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Yeah, but did you know that death rates of sensitive population groups like elderly have increased due to more and intense heatwaves caused by global warming?”
Option B:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Yeah.”
[silence]
Maybe you should try “medium talk” so you don’t get bored and other randos don’t get weirded out. After a comment about the weather you can say that bc of the nice weather you were hiking/sportsing/otherwise hobbying in [location], and wondered if they’ve been there recently. Or if the weather was shit that you were indoors doing whatever hobby and ask what they tend to do in their free time.
Hobby talk can basically be as superficial or deep as you need it to be, so the conversation can progress from there as needed.
"That’s right, Snake. Warmth is a physical phenomenon produced by a variety of factors, typically the sun. It occurs most often in tropical environments, but it can even be found in arctic climates…especially between two people. But did you know humans are also capable of generating something known as “artificial warmth”? "
“Hrrm… artificial warmth, huh?”
“In fact, artificial warmth technologies have been incorporated into your sneaking suit. There’s a copper lining which is powered by recaptured electrochemical activities from your body, which acts as a sort of radiator.”
“…So you’re telling me I don’t need anyone else as long as I’ve got this suit on.”
“Well, I guess that’s one way of putting it…But, don’t forget about the ‘nice’ part, okay Snake?”
Do you understand on an intellectual (as opposed to instinctive) level which topics are too serious for small talk?
Because if not then start there. If so, then it’s possible to get better by taking your time to reply and think over what you’re about to say so you can back out!
The weather isn’t a topic that will last for long. Maybe you can ask “did you see that crazy rain/wind/hail/whatever” but either the subject is going to change or one of you will segue into “I remember when I was xyz and there was this crazy rain/wind/hail/whatever”.
Conversations are about finding connections and judging what the other person might want to hear. Sometimes there’s no connection though and you’ve just got to bring up something else. Questions are good because they allow the other person to talk :p
I have no fucking clue how to do small talk. I tend to get too serious too fast and feel very incompetent and overwhelmed with this kind of almost meaningless noise. So it either ends in awkward silence or in me saying something too heavy for that kind of conversation, which tends to make things awkward as well.
Example, option A:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Yeah, but did you know that death rates of sensitive population groups like elderly have increased due to more and intense heatwaves caused by global warming?”
Option B:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Yeah.”
[silence]
Maybe I should get checked for autism, lol.
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Maybe you should try “medium talk” so you don’t get bored and other randos don’t get weirded out. After a comment about the weather you can say that bc of the nice weather you were hiking/sportsing/otherwise hobbying in [location], and wondered if they’ve been there recently. Or if the weather was shit that you were indoors doing whatever hobby and ask what they tend to do in their free time.
Hobby talk can basically be as superficial or deep as you need it to be, so the conversation can progress from there as needed.
What a fantastic thread today
Helpful Lemmings abound
Option C:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Think it will last?”
Option C:
“It’s so nice and warm today.”
“Nice and warm today?”
The Solid Snake approach
"That’s right, Snake. Warmth is a physical phenomenon produced by a variety of factors, typically the sun. It occurs most often in tropical environments, but it can even be found in arctic climates…especially between two people. But did you know humans are also capable of generating something known as “artificial warmth”? "
“Hrrm… artificial warmth, huh?”
“In fact, artificial warmth technologies have been incorporated into your sneaking suit. There’s a copper lining which is powered by recaptured electrochemical activities from your body, which acts as a sort of radiator.”
“…So you’re telling me I don’t need anyone else as long as I’ve got this suit on.”
“Well, I guess that’s one way of putting it…But, don’t forget about the ‘nice’ part, okay Snake?”
Do you understand on an intellectual (as opposed to instinctive) level which topics are too serious for small talk?
Because if not then start there. If so, then it’s possible to get better by taking your time to reply and think over what you’re about to say so you can back out!
The weather isn’t a topic that will last for long. Maybe you can ask “did you see that crazy rain/wind/hail/whatever” but either the subject is going to change or one of you will segue into “I remember when I was xyz and there was this crazy rain/wind/hail/whatever”.
Conversations are about finding connections and judging what the other person might want to hear. Sometimes there’s no connection though and you’ve just got to bring up something else. Questions are good because they allow the other person to talk :p