• Quinten@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    It is also about the way you communicate. You joined the Matrix server (or Discord, I’m not sure which, as they are interconnected) last night, and the first thing you asked was: “So, anyone wants to talk about admin-banning Izzy of science fiction? Cause it looks pretty bad honestly.” Meanwhile, other conversations were ongoing. Most people typically introduce themselves or at least say hello to everyone.

    Antik responded to you, but you didn’t agree with his answer. You followed up with “And btw the Sync users are more toxic and defensive than anyone… Just sayin.” and then you left the server.

    It’s evident that you joined for a specific reason, and your comment about the Sync users gives us an idea of where you stand on this issue.

    It’s perfectly fine to have differing opinions; just express them in a respectful manner.

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      1 year ago

      I didn’t know this is like Beehaw where you need to come hat in hand with an introductory essay before you can ask a question.

      Fine, I apologise for not saying Hello, I was tired. But if you need more than that, then well I’m not your person. I was in the scifi thread, got upset, then realised I should ask the other side as well. I was trying to get a picture, couldn’t get it, we both said/agreed the debate is over, so I left because I was getting more tired and upset and didn’t want to say something bad and frankly got worried that someone would make it about me, like it’s here. Guess that’s wrong?

      I wanted to sleep on it, but when this meme showed up, I tried to recap the situation here as neutrally as possible for people, tried to avoid saying who is right (ed: at first at least. Stress on “tried”, whether you believe it or not.), didn’t call out any particular admin, told people to make up their own mind, and i’m still the bad guy. I really don’t know what you expect from someone to recap the situation. “The great diligent admins banned the toxic harasser who’s been nothing but spewing vile”, was that what I was supposed to write?

      Despite what you may think about my motivations, I don’t have any stake in this other than trying to help make Lemmy a good platform, but for quite a while it’s been pointless due to all this toxic positivity where everyone has to walk on tiptoes.

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        1 year ago

        I didn’t know this is like Beehaw where you need to come hat in hand with an introductory essay before you can ask a question.

        Funny…

        …told people to make up their own mind, and i’m still the bad guy.

        We replied to your post. That’s all there is to it.

        …all this toxic positivity where everyone has to walk on tiptoes.

        I believe you can express nearly anything you wish. Why mention walking on your tiptoes? We’re engaged in a discussion about something on which we hold differing opinions. That’s perfectly acceptable. However, we are permitted to present our perspective.

        But I think we have now spoken to you at length enough on this subject. For me, this is a case closed.