distro barely matters beyond how you get the packages.

there’s a reason arch is popular, it can be whatever you want it to be.

tbh, it sounds like you don’t have a great understanding of Linux (not an attack!) so I would definitely stay away from Kali, and other distros like that.

stick with Arch if you’re confident you can maintain it, or if you want to have a system which you don’t have to poke at Fedora is a great option