It sounds to me like she was sexually harassing him.
I am not bi, but I wonder if bisexual people didn’t get the worst name for their sexuality. Because I suspect that most of them simply don’t care about the other person’s gender. I think they’re attracted to the person themselves, regardless of gender. And now that people accept that there are more than two genders, the “bi” in “bisexual”, meaning “two” seems overly specific.
But anyways, back to the example at hand, assuming that his type of “bi” means that he cares about other stuff more than gender, it’s hard to imagine a worse way to come onto him than to do what that lady did. “I have a terrible personality, now let’s see that hard dick.”
Not an expert, but I’ve always understood that what you’re describing is pansexual. I’ve understood the bisexual is general attraction to both men and women. Pansexual is attraction to any person.
Again, give or take any given person’s own chosen labels and attractions that might vary.
“Pansexual” is a term that was developed because some people were overly literal-minded about what they thought “bisexual” meant. A sensible person would know enough not to sweat the corner cases. We’re talking about human behavior, not code.
I always describe pansexuality as “bisexuality with more politics and an ugly flag”. The basic idea is the same (not being attracted only to one gender) but pansexuality is more explicit about there being more than two genders and liking most or all of them.
Some people lack the mental capacity to deal with more than two options, and try to force everyone else into one or the other of their faulty categories.
The proper response to such a question is “Were you dropped on your head as a baby?”
There is debate, but th generally accepted difference is:
Bisexual people like men, women, non binary, however the gender presentation can enter into the “attraction”. IE, if you like girls, you only like girls who present as X.
Pan sexual, th gender presentation is not part of it they are attracted to someone. It’s more about >this person< than about generalities.
Source: am Bi, have many bi and pan friends.
Bisexuality is NOT trans/non binary exclusionary as a general rule (people are still sometimes assholes).
Also you can be bi and be in a heteronormative relationship.
It sounds to me like she was sexually harassing him.
I am not bi, but I wonder if bisexual people didn’t get the worst name for their sexuality. Because I suspect that most of them simply don’t care about the other person’s gender. I think they’re attracted to the person themselves, regardless of gender. And now that people accept that there are more than two genders, the “bi” in “bisexual”, meaning “two” seems overly specific.
But anyways, back to the example at hand, assuming that his type of “bi” means that he cares about other stuff more than gender, it’s hard to imagine a worse way to come onto him than to do what that lady did. “I have a terrible personality, now let’s see that hard dick.”
Not an expert, but I’ve always understood that what you’re describing is pansexual. I’ve understood the bisexual is general attraction to both men and women. Pansexual is attraction to any person.
Again, give or take any given person’s own chosen labels and attractions that might vary.
“Pansexual” is a term that was developed because some people were overly literal-minded about what they thought “bisexual” meant. A sensible person would know enough not to sweat the corner cases. We’re talking about human behavior, not code.
I always describe pansexuality as “bisexuality with more politics and an ugly flag”. The basic idea is the same (not being attracted only to one gender) but pansexuality is more explicit about there being more than two genders and liking most or all of them.
Some people lack the mental capacity to deal with more than two options, and try to force everyone else into one or the other of their faulty categories.
The proper response to such a question is “Were you dropped on your head as a baby?”
There is debate, but th generally accepted difference is:
Bisexual people like men, women, non binary, however the gender presentation can enter into the “attraction”. IE, if you like girls, you only like girls who present as X.
Pan sexual, th gender presentation is not part of it they are attracted to someone. It’s more about >this person< than about generalities.
Source: am Bi, have many bi and pan friends.
Bisexuality is NOT trans/non binary exclusionary as a general rule (people are still sometimes assholes).
Also you can be bi and be in a heteronormative relationship.