• ameancow@lemmy.world
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    14 hours ago

    I am not against porn on any moral or ethical level as long as the content is produced with everyone’s consent and some level of protection for everyone involved, or if it’s material being shared by adults for fun. Fantastic, more of it. Everyone should enjoy the good things in life and that includes sexuality.

    That said, porn addiction is damaging not necessarily just because it alters your perception of relationships, but because anything you do that creates pleasure spikes/associations can have negative effects on your ability to derive pleasure from other things. And if you start getting hooked on porn early in life, these changes to your brain become extremely hard to break and you can set yourself up for chronic issues like depression, anhedonia and anxiety. And yes, also fucked up ideas about sex and relationships.

    I don’t think a ban is appropriate and I don’t trust the agencies that want to manage our age-verification, but I do think something needs to be done that doesn’t just hand wave it off as “let the parents do their job” because we don’t live in that world. Parents are just children with more bills. Nobody knows how to parent, much less parent properly though difficult topics.

    I am admittedly unsure what the right answer here is. A lot of the internet, not even just porn, is very damaging to our minds. Our attention spans are shot, we all just read the worst thoughts from the slimmest margin of people and focus on those edge cases about any idea or topic and it ruins our ability to socialize or engage with others happily. And a lot of young people around the whole world are just deeply stuck in ruts of doom-scrolling, porn, social-media and influencers giving fake advice and selling scams to anyone with access to a credit card.

    I feel like with all problems it comes back to capitalism fucking everything up for everyone, but I also know we’re nowhere near a point where people are going to start like, creating effective governments so that services and systems can be nationalized safely. I wouldn’t trust a nationalized trash-can in the USA, not sure how bad it is in Australia but it’s just a matter of time before capital ruins every developed country with a few cents to rub together.

    edit: if your impulse is to push back on this, it’s kinda telling bro.

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      10 hours ago

      but I do think something needs to be done that doesn’t just hand wave it off as “let the parents do their job” because we don’t live in that world.

      We absolutely could live in that world, but we’re never gonna get there if people like you continue to pass the buck to others who should not at all be tasked with being responsible for other people’s children—particularly not corporations run by billionaires who have been raping or facilitating the rape of children for decades.

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      10 hours ago

      porn addiction is not real, if someone’s porn consumption is such that it is disruptive of their daily lives then they likely have some sort of underlying psychological issue, but the same can be said of anything, including exercise for example

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        14 hours ago

        There are thousands and thousands of people who have suffered addiction to behavior that gives them dopamine, from scrolling to video games to porn, if it’s not real to you… GREAT, shut up and go away. I’m sure you’ll be fine. Don’t worry about it.