We had to put down our 14yo cat last night he had some neurological shut down but he was my partners for like 9 years and she’s devastated, I’m torn too but it’s not the same I’ve only know him for a year. I haven’t lost a pet in a long time does anybody have any advice? We had 4 cats now we have 3. I’m just trying to keep busy but my partner isn’t handling it well which is understandable I just want to know what I can do to help? I know it’s the grieving process I just don’t know how to help. I’m trying to keep her distracted but it’s hard when we’re at work.
Maybe just ask what she needs of you right now to help her grieve. Everyone is different after all and thus grieves differently. For example: we lost our elderly dog earlier this year. What helped me was going through all the pictures I had of her and make a reel (while crying my eyes out). My husband however started to build a bookcase.
I just went through a loss myself. My boy was 17 and I had him since he was a kitten and honestly it still hurts many months later. There is no easy fix. I still start crying at random times if I happen to see his favourite toy or a picture of him. You just need to let it run its course I think and slowly it gets better, just be there for your partner and offer support and hugs.