One day when I was a teen, my mother came up to me and said, “I shouldn’t be telling you this, but-“
I quickly said “Then don’t.”
She stopped dead in her tracks and looked at me in shock. “What do you mean?”
“If you’re not suppose to tell me something, then don’t tell me. Don’t tell anyone.”
She slowly turned and walked away, dejected.
I stopped telling both of my parents anything personal or compromising at a young age because I couldn’t trust either of them to hold it in confidence.
Some people find sharing secrets builds relationships. I don’t understand it though
Sharing secrets builds trust. Smart people share innocuous secrets.
Sharing secrets builds trust, sharing other peoples secrets erodes it.
My mother gets vague info from me now because anything I share immediately get told to all her friends and the rest of the family
Also my lazy ass, who doesn’t want call every extended family member for medium important news: just tell ist mom without NDA and wait for a few days.
