There are a lot of men who claim they are doms without doing the work. I can’t tell you how many times I indulged in talking with men like that who had no idea about kink or rules or power dynamics, none of it. They just wanted to be able to put their hand around my neck while fucking me.

I’m a switch and heavily involved in kink play. Those “doms” are laughable most of the time.

A submissive should never, ever play with a dom that can’t respect boundaries or doesn’t understand that submissives are in control of the scene ultimately.