Two weeks ago, I had a date with a girl I met through a dating app. She was really nice, we had a great conversation and she told in person at the bar she would love to see me again.
Well fast forward a week, I keep texting her to set something up, but she’s not responding. I think she’s ghosted me. I mean, that’s fine, but if you don’t want to date me anymore, then just let me know. I will respect your decision.
Dating is so frustrating sometimes… It’s really fucking hard and I sometimes feel lonely because of my lack of success. I have a good job and I’m a nice guy… but eh… I digress.
IMO you should aspire to be the kind of person you’d want to date. It probably would improve your chances but even if it doesn’t you’d at least be more happy with yourself and you can flourish in independence.
A witty, self reliant, modern, slightly kinky redhead?
Well that does sound achievable and if you become that you attract people with the same taste in their partner so you probably have a lot in common emotionally.
Being a black haired, bearded guy that resembles a bear prepping for hibernation I have some doubts about it being achievable. But I’ll get the dye ready.
Well you can still be all the other stuff. In regards of appearance I personally just work out to not be a fat lazy piece of shit like I used to. I’m not planning to get breast implants although I love boobs.
No, no, no, a nerdy slightly goth brunette. Duhhhh!
This is probably the most realistic and useful advice you can get. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Play to your strengths but dating and relationship is always work.
And remember there is a ton of luck involved. Some people find their life partner first try and others have to go through a lot more relationships before they do