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      I’m coming back to do something fucker

      I will make u so mad

      400 missed calls

      Rejection is hard, but there is no embarrassing way I’ve reacted to rejection in my life that makes me feel as gross and wrong as I feel reading that.

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    You might wanna contact law enforcement if he comes over to your house without your permission

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      What makes me chuckle the most is the fact that OP’s psycho ex partner can be either female or male and yet here we are (or at least I am) thinking that the psychotic ex partner is of the opposite sex

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        8th message middle row; heterosexual relationships are the most common globally.

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          Not necessarily, I am a heterosexual male and my best female friends refer to me as girl. Just cus you get called girl on my side of the planet doesn’t mean that you’re a girl by any means, either way we won’t know unless OP discloses their partner’s sex.

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          Ok fair enough that’s worded terribly, let me clear myself up. What I meant was the opposite sex, why I said it was because I was referring myself to the opposite sex that we do not understand because we aren’t it, which sometimes makes us hate it because we cannot relate to the struggles that they go through

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            Okay I gotcha. I definitely think its easy to get caught up in the battle of the sexes, I definitely grew up with intense messaging about generalizing both sexes, so I sometimes have to catch myself before randomly thinking X is doing that “cause they’re a man/woman”.

            I still sometimes fall into it but i eventually met so many different/interesting men and women that I stopped being able to assign expectations to them based on the sex I saw them as. Took a long time though/i think its a lifelong journey. I like that you can identify that it is something you are projecting onto them because you want to but don’t understand. That’s a great foundation to build understanding on

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    This is called “start a chain of paperwork with the police”. They of course won’t do much to help but it’s good for future restraining order proceedings.

    Because you’re gonna have future restraining order proceedings.

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    Op please seek law enforcement. At least so they have something from YOU on file. That’s fucking scary behavior Op for real. Be safe!

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    Restraining Order… save this nonsense, get a lawyer and get a restraining order… that is not mildly infuriating, its downright dangerous

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    This is what inspired someone to create the “block number” feature on phones. Wow. Sorry you’re dealing with this person. Hopefully they will quit this soon

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    This person needs psychiatric help. But OOP needs to call the police and I’d wager that has far more priority.

    *Edited OP to OOP, since OP likely didn’t receive these messages themself.

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    This person is “mildly” mentally ill and you need to stay away from them and also call the police and get a restraining order. Holy shit!!!

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      That’s basically it. Romantic obsession can look a lot like mental illness, and definitely feels like it. Being charitable to the guy, he might look back on this and wonder what the hell was going on in his head.

      I know I’ve been through a breakup that nearly killed me, and sheer white-knuckling restraint is the only thing that stopped me acting like this. It’s like a bereavement, but you also know the person is twenty minutes down the road.

      Or he might have been like this through the whole relationship, who knows.

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      Honestly, considering the last two texts, a restraining order is only a piece of paper, she should get a gun too unless she can carry a police officer around with her.

      Dude was crazy the whole time but “I’m going to come back and do something” is actually pretty serious imo, and the cops won’t act on it as a threat in my area because it is too unspecific, so I’m on my own.