I was going to say it’s definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I’ve often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like “mom” and “mama” or “dad” and “papa”.

With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I’ve met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still “dad” to her kids because her role as a dad didn’t invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I’ve known nonbinary folk who have kept “mom” or “dad” after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like “babi”). I’ve also heard people just using a diminutive of they’re name, like rather than the kid saying “my parent, Sam” it becomes “my Sammy”.

The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!

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🎶 Goodness gracious, lint starts a fire 🎶

I’m a trans woman and I recall this myth when I first learned abt trans stuff back in '06 or so. It was widely believed and shared in trans spaces that phytoestrogen could help marginally before getting access to human estrogen. Sites like Laura’s Playground (one of the largest online trans resources at the time) were filled with junk like this, along with a bunch of heteronormative and gender-essentialist takes that were super damaging. I’m glad resources are better and more prevalent now.

That was a long winded way of saying that I’m pretty sure a chunk of the culture war bs regarding soy (“soyboys”) came out of these pseudoscientific claims on trans forums, mixed with a dose of racism (wrt asian cultures that use soy in cooking).

Yeah, I’ve been using the bus to visit home for 6ish years now and there’s no consistancy year to year on how it’ll operate. I prefer the train, but there’s only 1 train each way/day and it ends up being a shit deal time-wise for me since the train arrives into the small city in the late evening and leaves early morning. I dream for the day the midwest gets its shit together

I’m firmly in the fuckcars camp and agree with you, I was more wondering why they made that decision. Someone else answered that they don’t want to pay to use the station, so I guess my question to you then is what local municipalities can do to prevent this/promote better intercity travel. Are they able to require the buses to use the station (and pay for it’s use)? I’m worried this coach company would just shut the line down.

I should also note that this is a popular transit route, there is an amtrak train that connects the cities as well, but only one train a day. I take the bus bc the train schedule is a bad deal if you’re visiting the small city (arrive in the evening, depart in the morning). The bus isn’t as popular as the train, so it seems like they’re cutting costs wherever they can.

That makes sense, as much as I hate it. It’s odd though since the route used to be served by a local coach company in partnership with Greyhound and would stop both at the intermodal station in the college town as well as the bus depot in the main city. The new operater is FlixBus, who bought Greyhound and presumably could have used the station/depot if they wanted; they must have been trying to cut costs on the route.

Nope, it’s ridiculous. This route used to be operated by a different company that stopped at both the station and the depot a few miles away in another part of the city, but the new operater stops at neither.

I use a TCL Flip 2, bought it unlocked on ebay for $40. It has hotspot, mms, and emoji support (can’t remember if the included keyboard has any emoji, since I use a custom one that has some, but the system can recognize and display most emoji people send). It actually runs a slimmed down version of android and you can root it and run some stuff, though most things are a pain to use. I’ve got signal, jerboa, and adaway running on mine, though I haven’t found another browser that plays nice yet.