As somebody with social anxiety, it sounds like your MIL also has social anxiety. Hence, the constant need to have to reinforce that other people can stand her. I had to train this out of myself in my late teens/early 20s.
I know it’s annoying to deal with, but showing a little compassion and simply affirming that you’re exhausted but her relationship with you is secure will go a long way for her. She’ll probably get used to you being quiet around her too.
I think it’s really ironic when I see these memes, because it highlights how our own heads will highlight the things that grate against our own nerves.
I assume everybody that this resonates with resonates with it because they themselves have been told to go against their nature and wanna know why the other side hasn’t.
I’m the other end of that spectrum. I promise you, people told me all that. “Mind your peers. Share the space. Stop being…so much. Learn to be comfortable in silences. What can’t you shut the fuck up?”
I have autism, so I didn’t understand why I was always screwing it up. I also hated hearing, “Be yourself. People will like you for who you are,” because I found that when I stopped trying to mask, I’d immediately hear all of the above all over again.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hy6imWsyHz8
If you click the line, there’s a video interview with the guy that line is about. Apparently, that line caused a rift between him and Biggie. Wonder why?
I don’t know. The identical faces adds some humor to me.
I’ll give a very literal example joke demonstrating how this used to function.
NOBODY:
ME: Yes, I did get a haircut. Thank you for asking.
See, nobody asked, but the speaker was still compelled to share this fact (or in other cases, an opinion). Over time, it became such a common format that people didn’t even grasp the initial purpose beyond it being convention. The term “POV” in captions is used this way now too.
Why did you have to give away a dog? What made you able to get given a new one?
I went to Rotten Tomatoes to read the reviews. Had me cracking up with how negative they were. Lol
Isn’t it their fault to begin with though? Spanish conquistadors aren’t known for their positive influence on Native American peoples.
“If people think Kerrygold is this good, maybe I should use it when making my scones instead of Falfurrias,” thought Nico de Gallo.
Trying to figure out if this is a bit or truly worth the hype. I was about to go shopping tomorrow. Gonna make scones, so I need butter.
I believe the phrase is “Big things come in small packages”.
I get that in pop culture, Latin sounds mysterious and ancient, but demons were ancient by the time folks were speaking Latin. It sounds like I’m nitpicking, but my point is that it’s kinda funny when you think about it.
The whole concept that demons speak Latin implies that Hell universally chose to learn a new human language between around 600 BC and 700 AD only spoken in Europe, North Africa, and West Asia, (completely ignoring every other civilization on Earth), and that also implies that, despite somehow successfully becoming almost universally fluent and literate in Latin, Hell couldn’t be bothered to pick up another textbook for the following 1300 and some-odd years till today.
ADHD. A lot of people might say depression, and ADHD gets misdiagnosed this way too, especially because people are much more familiar with the way depression manifests rather than how ADHD actually manifests beyond stereotypical hyperactivity and difficulty focusing.
What you’re describing is executive dysfunction and energy regulation problems. The reason you can’t stop scrolling is because your brain doesn’t produce dopamine enough, and it’s only used to the short bursts it can produce. This creates a feedback loop where you’re stuck stimulating yourself with quick, easy dopamine hits, and that’s why anything that seems like a prolonged task feels like an impossible endeavor. It’s also why you’ll get tunnel vision if you ever do start playing that game.
Sorry, I haven’t had somebody jump to the worst possible conclusion about what I meant for the sake of being argumentative and flexing their moral superiority in a public space since college, so I’m a little out of practice here.
Please stop telling me what I think after I corrected you. That’s gaslighting. Additionally, as a nonbinary person, I also don’t appreciate a stranger forcing their paradigm of gender roles onto me like that. Please check yourself.
That’s what the “Fluff” cycle on the dryer is for.
My assumption was the joke was that OP’s mom does their laundry for them as if is OP was a child, not that women are constrained to doing laundry. It’s not like I didn’t clock the joke. The kernel of truth was the idea that doing those 3 things might be a pain to do, and even my partner complained about having to be careful with certain clothing when I taught her how to do the laundry (which I still primarily do), but it’s good for people to have these skills, regardless of gender. On the flip side, she stopped complaining when she realized how much longer her clothing lasts now.
Also, my parents divided chores up, and my mom was in charge of the laundry while my dad did the cooking growing up because they each preferred doing those chores. Had nothing to do with gender, but maybe that’s why I didn’t immediately consider the assumption that somebody’s mother does their laundry as sexist. Sometimes, it’s just like that.
On the topic of you making wild assumptions about another’s thought process (unless you’re a mind reader, and I missed that), I was carrying on to say with my comment that OP should do all that. Not their mother.
I actually have a pretty sensitive sense of smell.
The smell is caused by bacteria blooming. If you’re using good detergent, it kills the bacteria. Likewise, soap is bipolar, so one end of the molecule grips the oils you excrete and grime you pick up, and the hydrophilic end gets it all yoinked off during the rinse.
So THAT’S why it’s always so high-quality.