I could absolutely be wrong about this because I’ve never really looked it up, but I thought “duty to retreat” still allowed use of lethal force once there is nowhere left to retreat (for example, once in your own home).
Part of those pesky “inalienable rights”.
Ugh, lmgtfy was the absolute worst.
Sending a link to that site was the answer to tell me you’re an asshole without telling me you’re an asshole.
I’ll take it a step further and say that most of the people I’ve worked with have been amazing. Really just some very enjoyable people to be around.
Something about the field though seems to really attract the super assholes and they’re so assholish that they color the perception of the whole field.
It’s really unfortunate how a very loud, very obnoxious minority can have such an outsized impact.
Would you walk into a religious place of worship, a strip club, a gun range, or Costco without at least knowing how to interact with that space?
I wouldn’t walk into a strip club period, but for all of your other examples I would absolutely go to those places to figure out how to interact with them. Frankly, I do not understand why you wouldn’t. Who is more qualified to explain to you how to interact with them than the people you want to interact with?
You’re accusing me of “white knighting” (hello, painfully 2010s virtue signaling catch phrase) for saying that people shouldn’t be shitty to each other. I’ll counter by accusing you of enabling that negative behavior by making excuses for it.
I’m glad that I was a beginner before SE. I think it may have pushed me out of my field before I even got started.
Exclusively book learning may have been more difficult in some ways but I’ll take it over SE any day of the week.
No.
All of the “rules” you’re describing are effectively just gaslighting people who have been bullied into thinking they asked for it. It takes so little effort not to be a dick to people. It’s like the lowest effort thing I can think of.
Asking questions is fine; asking without doing prior research is fine too. Online bullies want others to think you need to have a PhD thesis on the topic before you’re allowed to ask a question and that mindset is ridiculous.
Ask your questions @alina@lemmy.world, don’t apologize for it, and just ignore the assholes. It’s totally fine to look for a human connection first, you don’t need that doctorate beforehand.
If any of this audio is true it’s way way more damning than I imagined: https://lisevoldeng.substack.com/p/dont-worry-boys-are-hard-to-find
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Oh yay, more tribalism.
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What a shameful time to be American.