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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • I doubt it’ll ever be redesigned.

    The reason it’s badly designed as is, is that people wanted specific inclusion into the primary symbol. There’s really no way to change a rainbow; it’s the standard spectrum of visible light being used as a symbol of everyone in their diversity being part of a group.

    To be any more inclusive, you have to put things on top of the already inclusive rainbow. A corner piece or an inset is the only way to do that that isn’t horrible looking no matter what it is.

    The chevrons from the side are at least visually balanced, though not well chosen colorwise. Then again, the representative colors weren’t chosen with being added to a flag in the first place.

    Once you start changing an established symbol rather than just coming up with a new one, design goes out the window. It’s no longer cohesive because it can’t be. It’s like the difference between someone planning a tattoo that covers their arm, and someone getting a few dozen tattoos on their arm. Shoving things together without a plan ahead of time is airways going to be less visually pleasing.

    But, visual pleasance isn’t what the flag is for, so maybe it’s more effective than something planned from the beginning. I dunno, but the fact that it isn’t “just” a rainbow does mean you can’t mistake it for someone liking rainbows in general, so that could be a benefit of that change.

    I don’t agree that the original rainbow flag has too many colors though. If you don’t have the standard color spectrum there, it isn’t a rainbow to most people’s minds, so it would be worse design. The standard ROYGBV is standard for a pigment rainbow for a good reason.



  • Well, the degree and severity of what you’re describing isn’t what most people experience, and it seems like it is at an unhealthy degree of frequency and severity.

    I would say that anyone experiencing that kind of inner turmoil would benefit from evaluation and treatment. Trying to diagnose someone online is a sucker’s bet even if you’re a qualified professional, and I seriously doubt you’re going to find one of those here on lemmy randomly. But, yeah, if a family member or friend out here in meatspace told me they were experiencing that, I’d be helping them find either a psychiatrist or other mental health provider sooner rather than later.

    Most people do experience at least occasional intrusive thoughts, but not to that level. It’s very good that you recognize it’s an inner voice rather than a separate source though. It does tend to mean you’ll respond well to one or more of the various treatment options, which will depend in exactly what the root cause is. Likely, there would be a combination of medications and talk therapy of some variation or another.

    And, I suspect that even though most people need to try a few meds before they find the best options, that you will likely get relief quickly once that happens. So you’ll be able to approach other treatments and benefit from them quickly as well.


  • Being real, there’s not much in the way of easy to get things that are painless, even if they’re fast. Such options have been legislated away. Others have been limited by additions that make them difficult or impossible to take in quantity.

    So you really can’t rely on anything you’re likely to have available without also having the knowledge to change them into a form that removes those barriers. And, if you had that already, you wouldn’t be here asking this.

    Now, I’m not giving anyone instructions on how to off themselves. It’s illegal in enough places there’s no way I’m risking that for a total stranger.

    What I can say is that the things you’ve listed here either wouldn’t work at all, would be painful, or won’t work the way you want.

    You’ll have to do your own research on this kind of thing. Nobody that would give you advice in the open could be trusted to give you good advice. I’m not even talking about someone fucking with you, it’s just that it’s kinda specialized knowledge in terms of knowing what to do to achieve the goal of a fast and painless death that will also not fuck you up if it fails.

    Like, there’s plenty of stuff that’s fast, plenty that’s painless (or so fast that the pain isn’t a factor), but damn near everything that’s going to be available to the average Joe is going to have a chance of failure. Most of those will fuck up your brain or body, and you’ll be even worse off than before.

    So you have to independently verify shit. Even someone well meaning may not have awareness of possible outcomes. Even someone that’s 100% behind right to death can still be wrong in their knowledge.





  • Well, I’m not going to play the “it depends on the writer” card.

    But it kinda does apply, even among people conveying their real life experiences. And, to forestall arguments, it doesn’t matter if it is objectively real or not, assuming they aren’t lying, they’re relating their lived experience. Whether that is a delusion or hallucination is irrelevant to this matter.

    See, if you start off with the assumption that ghosts either exist, or are a form of shared delusion, then some things can be taken from that.

    First, that anyone seeing a ghost is a minority because seeing them isn’t a common occurrence. Second, that regardless of anything else, the first ghost seen isn’t random. Third, that if a ghost can communicate at all (which is not a part of all reports about ghosts), it has limited time to do so.

    With those probabilities in mind, if you see a ghost, chances are that it is there for a reason, that you seeing it is for a reason, and that it has to use its time with you to achieve a very specific goal.

    Why would the racist ghosts start off saying “now, I’m racist, but hear me out”?

    It’s that simple. Unless a ghost is haunting only a given grouping of people, there’s no benefit to expressing their racism at all. If they are haunting a race, then there’s still no need to outright say it; they’re acting on their racism and don’t care if anyone understands their motivations.


  • It isn’t just those, but horses and bulls have the biggest poops most people will ever see. So using them as reference for giant piles of unpleasant things makes sense.

    Now, batshit? For one, have you ever been near where bats stay? The smell is so fucking intense.

    But, bats are also known to flit around in a way that’s erratic when you rarely see their entire flight path. So they have a reputation for being less predictable, or a little crazy. At least that’s my understanding of how bats got referenced for someone being easily distracted, weird, or crazy. You know, “that old lady is a little batty, so don’t be surprised if she forgets to pay you”, or “that dude has bats in his belfry”.

    How that got linked too batshit, I’m not certain. Back when I looked it up, the sources we have now didn’t exist., which ima go look the etymology of it up and see if there’s something newer to me. If there is, I’ll come back.

    Nah, nothing new. Only thing that I saw this time was batshit probably coming more as a variant of bullshit, with a similar meaning, and then getting tangled up with the idea of being batty. So, in terms of how it would be used, a crazy person isn’t bullshitting because they think what they’re spewing is true, so it’s batshit instead.

    Also, I noticed apeshit out there as well. Meaning to lose one’s shit in a violent way. Which, apes tend to look like they’re going apeshit as a dominance/threat display, but tend to not carry through as often as humans do



  • Hypothetically, I don’t have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.

    In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.

    Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, I’m not going to enter a relationship with someone that’s into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.

    Luckily, I’m happily married, so I don’t have to worry about that shit. But I’ve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially “trying on” someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that it’s probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.

    Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You can’t predict what’s going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.

    Now, on a practical level, once you’re out in the work force, chances are that you’ll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you aren’t going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldn’t have rejected the possibility if it came up.

    I dunno, I just don’t see age gaps as a problem.


  • I dunno that it’s cut and dried.

    Me? I’ll sleep through storms and music and loud cars. But if you even tiptoe into my room, I’m awake and usually already moving by the time you’ve taken a few steps.

    However, different people cause different levels of response. My wife and kid can usually get close to the bed, maybe even reach out to touch my leg. My best friend is the same way. My dad, and my best friend’s husband I wake as soon as whatever it is that my brain recognizes is in the room, but I’m not on edge the way I am with anyone else.

    My dad is similar about sounds outside the house, he’ll snore through a hurricane, and has. But if you speak his name quietly outside his door, he’s awake and talking to you, ready to move if he needs to.

    My wife though? Fuck me, she sleeps hard. I have had to shake her awake more than once.

    The kid is more like my dad with their name being called, but they also wake up to any loud noises outside. They will, however, sleep through an entire conversation right outside their door.

    I believe the reason is that our brains filter senses all the time, awake or asleep. Everyone filters a little differently. So it makes sense that we’ll all pick up habits of filtering things our brains have learned are low priority, but rouse us for higher priority things. What’s crazy to me is that those filters don’t always make sense.





  • Only reason I don’t sleep with my equivalent is that I’ve already had to fix it five times.

    The blanket that was my childhood blanket is so fragile it’s not even possible to mend it.

    But the pillow my grandmother made for me, that sucker was made of polyester scraps. Which, for all that’s bad about polyester, the stuff lasts. So, over forty years later, I’ve replaced the filling three times, and resewn it fully twice, plus one partial resew. I tend to replace the filling any time I do a major repair, but there’s been three times I needed to specifically refill it.

    Back when she made it, it was filled with that loose polyfill stuff. I’ve swapped between cotton, polyfill, shredded foam, and shredded memory foam.

    I don’t sleep with it any more, like I said. But it’s right here beside me.

    I had even specified being buried with it, but swapped to wanting cremation, and that’s not going to work with the pillow.