I made some off-hand comments on a post on 196 and didn’t realize they’d be taken the wrong way. I made a few more comments to help clarify my idea but caught a blanket ban from blahaj.zone with no warning or message.
https://lemmy.world/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=588349
I’m mortified :( It’s never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of “Our differences shouldn’t be minimized because they make us special” was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.
But with no prior warnings or even a message from a mod to ‘cool it’, I got banned from the entire instance. I love these communities (feel free to look at my 2.5 years of comment/post history) and I would like to be able to continue to participate.
So, is there a formalized method of ban appeal beyond messaging mods? Their instance has like 12, so I don’t want to spam them and have it seen as harassment.
There’s a no threadiverse-wide appeals community, but it sounds like it might be useful if it becomes standard. We have !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com but that’s more about speaking truth to power, although it’s been used before to convince mods to reverse bad moderation actions
I’m mortified :( It’s never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of “Our differences shouldn’t be minimized because they make us special” was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.
Try not to take it personally. You waded into a subject which has become a sort of rationality-free zone. Perhaps more so even than Israel-Palestine, or immigration in Europe. On these topics there is almost nobody left who is interested in nuanced debate, it’s now only a question of identifying which “side” one’s interlocutor is on, and then unloading on them (or downvoting, or deleting, or blocking, or banning) as appropriate. You stumbled into sterile trench warfare, basically.
Soon after I joined Lemmy I was banned from a (somewhat serious) community for making the same mistake you made. I learned my lesson. With certain topics, genuine debate - open-minded, good faith discussion - is just not possible. I see it as a failure of Lemmy, yes, but mainly of the whole medium of text-based social media. It’s certainly not your fault.
@Zoomboingding@lemmy.world, @JubilantJaguar@lemmy.world is right. You stumbled onto an extremely hot topic on the fediverse. Blahaj is extremely sensitive to it, that’s just how the community is.
If they dont want your identity (the current account you are using), just create a new one and use that one to learn their ways and become a good member of their community.
However, and I’m saying this out of completeness not because I actually believe this is what you want, if you just want to debate their points and break their rules knowingly, please don’t. Just accept that they have different preferences than you do. Life is too short to willingly spend time where you aren’t wanted.
Each instance will have its own policies and systems. I can’t speak for blahaj.zone.
I consider myself reasonable enough that im pretty ok with dropping a place that bans me. Its like I don’t expect to be thrown out of bars or restaurants I use because I don’t like go crazy yelling at staff or punching people.
This is a disadvantage of the Fediverse: the owner of the instance dictates the rules, and the moderators are as prone to power trips as they are on Reddit.
Be glad you were banned from blahaj, it’s in the top instances of intolerance to group think defiance. If you manage to get unbanned, you’ll be always at risk of another impulsive ban.
Real life is hard enough to add gratuitous drama to it.
I’d really like to appeal it because I like several of the communities there. I also recognize that I was on a meme sub and people aren’t there to defend their identity with a stranger - there’s a time and a place. It was a post about unity and inclusion, and my gripe about an implication of the message wasn’t worth ruffling feathers.
But thank you for the comment, the instance didn’t seem to mention anything about messaging mods or appeals, and I wasn’t sure if there was some fediverse-wide method.
