[Reposting since my other account seems shadowbanned(?). I’m sorry if you are seeing this again]

I am one of those who are in their twenties and never had a partner (unless you count that one odd semi edating stuff I got going at one time). And thus never felt touch of a partner or their love lol.

Well in my teens, I never had these feelings this high and I always felt focusing on my studies was the best so I had myself distracted all the time. Love was a foreign concept.

Even now it does feel like one, but after a long online situationship( ? idk what you call it) I feel it unlocked something in me. I have been feeling stuff I haven’t felt before and this had me trying to watch some romcoms which I never did in my teenage. But these don’t really sit with me and idk how to deal with the random waves of endearing for a loving partner (my teenage self of me is still cringing at this while I type >W<) .

So what are some ways to quench off this particular thrist (without, obviously, getting a gf)?

Note: I will look for a gf in the long run for sure, I’m only looking at alternative ways of dealing with these feelings.

  • Em Adespoton@lemmy.ca
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    10 hours ago

    One dose of realism here: time doesn’t heal anything. The experiences you have during that time contextualize your current experience.

    So if you spend years waiting for the feeling to subside to do something else, nothing will change. You have to get out there and have new experiences that help you make sense of the existing ones.

    Hobbies that involve scheduled events where you interact with others help a lot.