Preface, nothing against those that do.
Its increasingly difficult to ever do fun things with my current friends. Now that I’m to the point where I have the space and the money and time to do pretty much anything I want, no one else has any time to hang out. I get ignored a lot, which I get, they care about their family more. But I’m the type of person who likes to host stuff and do things.
Not a huge deal to me, I’m fine being alone, but its like, man, its really fun hanging out and playing some IRL video games or just cruising or walking around outdoors etc. I guess nobody really has time as they get old though. Or maybe I need to find a younger crowd 😆 I have no idea.
Your wife sounds like my wife and I. Mine has medical issues though so has a bit of an excuse. You know I think one thing is we introverts were a bit dependent on extroverts to get us to do a few things and since covid the extroverts have a hard time even getting other extroverts together much less looking around for people they have to work hard to get to go out. If the person is not married its going to be even harder becuase the married folks are less motivated to go out.
Same here, we’re both 100% disabled according to the VA. Doesn’t mean we’re immobile, but our mobility is a bit restricted at times and my wife uses that as an excuse to avoid doing things. The less she moves, the less likely she’s going to be in pain that day.
I personally just fight through the pain to be productive, and if I need to take a rest day to recover, oh well. It’s not like I have to be anywhere.
basically my wife can move around for an hour without much consequence but like 2 and she will have to recover a bit and 4 or more she will be laid up the next day. Mainly from her back. If she has good enough chairs and can go from sitting to standing the times can go a bit longer. So like we have a minivan which is actually a very good seat. don’t have to climb into it but don’t fall into it either. so if she is driving and going to places and the driving is not to long and the places are not to long in one place it works out. Does make it darn hard to be social.
That sounds very similar to my wife’s situation. Except the few times she’s feeling good, she’ll just bail on social plans as we’re trying to leave the door. I end up attending social events by myself a lot.
yeah we don’t really try as I know that will be the case. Again I don’t blame her but she can’t handle it. She does a fair amount though around the house and shopping so she does what she can within her capacity.