• ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works
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    3 hours ago

    No one in the world who would do any of those things has ever worried that he was being creepy in a non-sexual situation. Meanwhile the whole point of the worry that you’re being creepy in a non-sexual situation is that stuff you would comfortably say to another man might sound weird to a woman.

  • Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 hours ago

    The thing is, it’s not being creepy that I’m worried about. I know I’m not being creepy. I care about making people uncomfortable and I don’t need to be creepy to make women uncomfortable. I’m a 6ft dude built like a shit brick house who also has acquired a bad habit of walking silently due to years of working nightshift and having roommates. There is no way for me to be anywhere in the vacinity of an otherwise lone woman without her likely being uncomfortable regardless of what I’m doing. I don’t like feeling like I’m making someone uncomfortable so I tend to just avoid being around or interacting with women. Not sure what else I can do about it.

    • Seleni@lemmy.world
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      If we’re talking the ‘walking down the street at night and you see a woman’ scenario, making noise and keeping a respectful distance helps. Develop a whistling habit, have some jangly keys out, whatever. This especially helps if you’re behind us.

      Beyond that, it really depends on the situation, but as long as you don’t leer or loom that’s a good start.

    • Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca
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      4 hours ago

      I dunno but he seems pretty chill… this post makes me wanna take him to get a bank loan and maybe a hotel afterwards

  • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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    4 hours ago

    I mean, I know this isn’t the point, but I would say all those things to Dave. I’m not even into dudes, but they deserve to be flirted with too. As a straight man, I flirt more aggressively with other straight men than with women.

  • KokusnussRitter@discuss.tchncs.de
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    4 hours ago

    Dave is out there babysitting and spraying in his bald spot feeling confident. I am happy for him, invested even. What else does he get up to? :D