I have a girlfriend. She’s sweet, but she ALWAYS talks over me when i’m upset to change the subject or to tell me to look at a cat video or Bluey or Hazbin Hotel funny clips.
i feel so bad for saying this, but when i tried to tell her i was struggling with depression, it took like 3 tries to get her to listen, and all she said was to just be happy and smile.
today, i tried to tell her one of my grandpas died recently and she just talked over me about funny videos and tiktok. even if i tell her to listen, she does‘t or starts getting sad, so even when she says i can tell her anything, i don’t often. Am i in the wrong for that?
Also, she sends laughing emojis when I tell her something like “I have a PTSD diagnosis” on the topic of mental health, and she constantly puts herself down and asks me to give her reasons why she’s a good girlfriend and not “stupid and ugly”.
You’re 16…a 14 year old is not going to be able to provide mental health support for you. You need actual help. You’re expecting something from someone still developing mentally. You as well. Go get the help you need and try not lay your mental health on others. There is being supportive and then there is expecting others to be your therapist…guess which one people don’t really want to do.
She’s 15 but I only brought up casual things like being sad, I didn’t tell my whole life’s story and I should add that she always talks about her depression and how sad she is and how she’s a terrible person so I guess neither pf us can deal with it