I have a girlfriend. She’s sweet, but she ALWAYS talks over me when i’m upset to change the subject or to tell me to look at a cat video or Bluey or Hazbin Hotel funny clips.
i feel so bad for saying this, but when i tried to tell her i was struggling with depression, it took like 3 tries to get her to listen, and all she said was to just be happy and smile.
today, i tried to tell her one of my grandpas died recently and she just talked over me about funny videos and tiktok. even if i tell her to listen, she does‘t or starts getting sad, so even when she says i can tell her anything, i don’t often. Am i in the wrong for that?
Also, she sends laughing emojis when I tell her something like “I have a PTSD diagnosis” on the topic of mental health, and she constantly puts herself down and asks me to give her reasons why she’s a good girlfriend and not “stupid and ugly”.
Often when people ask for advice like you are doing it comes down to “tell them what you told me just now.”
In this case it seems like she doesn’t listen, and/or care enough.
If you are trying in earnest, and it is reciprocated then there is room for growth. If it isn’t then they are not supporting you, and you should seriously and decisively consider going separate ways.
You can like each other, you can enjoy each other’s company, you can be in love, yet still it be wrong for a relationship.
The girlfriend sounds really childish. To the point I’m wondering if these are very young people, like early teens. If so it isn’t that that don’t care, it’s that they’re very immature and don’t know how to deal with anything uncomfortable and just shove it out of the way and move on to what they can easily distract themselves with.
If this person is an adult, I’m very concerned about their maturity level, becuase it sounds really stunted.
15 and 16, high school
You’re doing well by being open enough to ask and learn.
You’re gonna make some mistakes, and you’re also gonna be right and prove the world wrong sometimes.