Link : https://vger.to/lemmy.world/c/rape

I’m a french feminist guy. I created a safe space for all Survivors and their loved ones, exactly like r/rape on Reddit. BUT, btw, not EXACLTY. r/rape is pretty wild and had bad moderation. r/SexualAsssault is ALSO weird and sometimes wild. r/MenGetRapedToo is too little to become one day a first-class resource on Reddit.

So, I want make my Lemmy community useful for all users. What are the things you want to see in it ? I’ve already decided to add links and ressources redirecting to RAINN.org, hotlines, and other useful helps. What can I do After this ?

  • dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works
    2·
    2 小时前

    Uff, I don’t know if Lemmy is the right software for that. Or safe spaces in generell.

    The Moderation tools aren’t the best and the way federation works means you will get the most unhinged drive by comments and for people in a vulnerable state like that, that could be pretty devastating.

  • solidheron@sh.itjust.works
    3·
    12 小时前

    You got a great cause idk if Lemmy is place sexual assault victims. About 30% of lurkers are really toxic and tribal to an unhealthy degree. Maybe they wouldn’t touch serious subject matter like sexual assault.

    Just to state the obvious that moderation would be necessary

  • CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world
    12·
    24 小时前

    May I suggest considering what the community is supposed to be?

    For example, an invite only safe space for survivors. Sharing is difficult, sharing trauma publicly perhaps more so. Should be private and invite only for survivors. Also make a mod team with governance that respects the community, up front, in writing.

    If going for a forum where allies are allowed, consider the will of survivors. It’s their forum. Let them decide who and what is or isn’t shared, and whether open, invite or survivor invite only.

    You can build 3 related communities if they choose. One for survivors, one for survivors and allies and one for survivors, allies and the public with different contributions and interactions.

  • velma@sh.itjust.works
    9·
    1 天前

    I love this so much! Thank you!!

    RAINN is great for resources! I pull their stats often and there’s great resources there.

    I’d love to see discussions about awareness and reduction. There’s quite a few deeply caring and intelligent Lemmings who would treat such discussions with respect.

    You will need to moderate very closely. There’s a lot of users here who victim blame and push that false reporting is more damaging than actually being raped. It is imperative that those views aren’t tolerated if victims are going to feel safe sharing their stories.

    • Jean-Noël Hurpeau@lemmy.worldOP
      4·
      1 天前

      Thank you for the point of view ! Idk how an user can integrate a mod team on Lemmy, but if you want, you’re welcome. Ok, I’m checklisting that lol.

      Sorry for dumb english, also.

      All users are welcome. EXCEPTED in case of victim blaming, harmful purposes, creepy DM(s), Etc. In this case, you can comment the username into a mod post in the community, called “Court Room”, and I’ll ban it.

  • Otter@lemmy.ca
    3·
    19 小时前

    I don’t think you need to keep the naming structure the same as Reddit, especially if you don’t need to keep any official connection to the subreddit moderators and you disagree with how they ran things

    If you’re looking for names, perhaps “sexual assault support”? Or just “sexual assault”, and ignore whatever went wrong with the subreddit

    You can also link to related communities once you find ones that align with what you’re trying to do. For example, !mensliberation@lemmy.ca sounds related to what you have described

    • Jean-Noël Hurpeau@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      13 小时前

      Ok. Hmm hmm. Sexual Assault Support sounds greate, so I’m probably going to rename the community description.

      I saw your community link, but… Typically the type of content you can’t post on my communities. This is sexist. As a man I was assaulted. Both genders are victims.

      • Otter@lemmy.ca
        2·
        11 小时前

        Yea I thought of that name because that’s the phrasing used by the organization at my former university, which I know has done good work. In case you find any helpful resources, their website is here: https://www.amssasc.ca/

        I’m sure there are many other excellent organizations out there.

        Typically the type of content you can’t post on my communities

        Yea that’s my bad, I haven’t kept up with that community since subscribing to it a few years ago. It looks like the discussion in that community has gotten less focussed and shifted towards discussing areas of controversy. I agree it’s not the kind of stuff you’d want for your community.

        When I first subscribed to it, it was closer to what they still have in their sidebar:

        This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.

        All the more reason why your new communities will be helpful :)

  • Big Baby Thor@sopuli.xyz
    6·
    23 小时前

    I’d like a list of resources in the sidebar. There are websites and organizations around the world that are founded to help rape victims and their loved ones with the issues they have to deal with.

    Also resources for how to get away from abusive spouses or even abusive communities. Knowing where to go, how to build a new support network, how to get the resources to move away.

    You could draft a sidebar in a post and let the community comment suggested changes to it.

    • Jean-Noël Hurpeau@lemmy.worldOP
      4·
      23 小时前

      The best idea imo. I’m currently writing that, but I’ll just going to post and pin the post. This is the easier way to access the resources with low capacities device (like smartphone).

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      22 小时前

      Also resources for how to get away from abusive spouses or even abusive communities.

      This is a great suggestion.

      • Jean-Noël Hurpeau@lemmy.worldOP
        2·
        22 小时前

        Mainly, the hotlines are ALSO these resources to get rid of dangerous partners. That’s why I put the biggest possible number of useful (and still active !) resources into my guides. You can see it, pinned, in the communities.

  • Victor@lemmy.world
    2·
    12 小时前

    I’ve never been sexually assaulted or sexually assaulted anyone (weird “confession” I never thought I’d make), but I just wanted to say that’s an awesome initiative. ❤️🤝

    • Jean-Noël Hurpeau@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      22 小时前

      Although I understand the suggestion, it would be inappropriate and impossible to put into practice. During my time on Reddit, I’ve observed that certain things are very triggering for some people, and not at all for others. Therefore, deciding whether a text is “triggering” or not cannot be left up to the moderator’s discretion. Nevertheless, I’ve taken note and will add a rule regarding the inclusion of essential “TW” (Trigger Warning) labels in the post title.

  • i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca
    2·
    21 小时前

    Rules in the sidebar are a good idea. 3-5 is plenty. And I would reserve one as a bit more vague, like “don’t behave like a jerk”.

    The rules can evolve over time as you see the points of friction in how users behave. The jerk rule lets you ban assholes without them running screaming to the admins or one of the fediverse drama communities.