Yeah, why would you trust a professional with legal responsibilities and a duty of care when you can go to an anonymous forum where I’m sure everyone tells the truth all the time and always has your best interests at heart!
Obviously I’m being facetious and I get your point that taking to your peers is very important, but careful not to slip into the rampant anti-intellectualism and distrust of “so-called experts” which fuels all the insane conspiracy shit we see all over the internet nowadays.
Unfortunately in many places in America, if one went to a local professional to seek help escaping abusive parents or a cult scenario, you actually have a decent chance of encountering a professional who is either a fraud/quack with a nonsense degree from a degree mill, or they might just be totally fine with parental abuse or the local cult.
They might decide that the child is delusional (because no parent would ever be /that/ bad, right?) and has unfounded aggression issues, classify them as mentally ill and remand them to a modern day asylum (mental health facility) which are generally staffed by overworked and underpaid employees … at best.
That kind of thing happens a lot more often than a lot of people realize.
Maybe check out how Dr. Phil seems to have had no problem his entire career sending unruly children to what are effective labor camps in the middle of no where.
Oh and lets just continue to pretend that the field of therapists and psychologists hasnt had a huge problem of uh, becoming sexually intimate with their clients, and lets also pretend that problem is completely solved.
Oh and lets also pretend that mental health facilities totally all attract the most well paid and tenured psychiatrists who never ever prescribe mind altering medication based on a single evaluation of a client in a 5 minute conversation, while the child is likely in a panicked state from either fleeing massive trauma, or being traumatically forced to go somewhere they do not want to go.
It sucks. If you can find a /good/ therapist or what not, they can literally save your life. But if you don’t, well, not so great. And a child is not going to be able to recognize the difference most of the time, until its too late.
Well that’s shit, no wonder online discussion groups / safe spaces are so popular over there. That does raise a different issue though, the USA-dominated (and consequently often USA-centric) view presumably warps the view of people seeking help from places where they can and should be talking to real medical professionals.
Yeah… Americans have very expensive, fairly low quality healthcare compared to much of the rest of the developed world… and we also have garbage quality public education compared to much of the developed world.
If you are an average, poor, barely educated American kid from an abusive family, chances are you do not even realize that people from other countries use the internet as well.
The ‘joke’ during the Bush years was that Americans learn geography through our wars.
This isnt a joke anymore. Our education systems are worse today, in general, than when I was a kid… Most American kids are basically unaware of the rest of the world, other than a few famous landmarks from a movie or music video.
I met an 18 year old a few months ago who was an otherwise capable and reasonable person… but I had to explain to him that the Iron Man movies were not documentaries.
He actually thought they were at least based on real life events, genuinely.
And he was actually fleeing an abusive family.
In America these days, schools are terrible, Parents are usually very overworked, very stressed out, come home from work and either go to bed, or zone out with TV, Video Games or Booze or Drugs.
They rarely spend quality time with their kids, as the average American worker is far worse off in many respects than many other parts of the developed world.
But uh anyway… yeah Americans usually just assume by default that everyone on the internet speaking english is also American, at least via text, myself included usually, unless some particular non American vernacular or cultural reference is used or whatever.
Usually when you tell the average American that basically most Europeans and many Asians and Africans are just also taught English in addition to their mother tongues during standard childhood education, they do not even believe you, or are astounded by this fact. (Exception to this is; Unless they are from a recently immigrated family.)
I am not quite sure what you mean, or if I am understanding what you are saying near the end of your comment though.
Are… poor, abused, poorly educated American children somehow going to be able to access quality mental healthcare from outside their country? How would they pay for it? How would they travel to it?
Or do you more mean that basically people should use like country flags on such discussion groups so that people at least generally know what country their given advice should apply to?
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Yeah, why would you trust a professional with legal responsibilities and a duty of care when you can go to an anonymous forum where I’m sure everyone tells the truth all the time and always has your best interests at heart!
Obviously I’m being facetious and I get your point that taking to your peers is very important, but careful not to slip into the rampant anti-intellectualism and distrust of “so-called experts” which fuels all the insane conspiracy shit we see all over the internet nowadays.
Unfortunately in many places in America, if one went to a local professional to seek help escaping abusive parents or a cult scenario, you actually have a decent chance of encountering a professional who is either a fraud/quack with a nonsense degree from a degree mill, or they might just be totally fine with parental abuse or the local cult.
They might decide that the child is delusional (because no parent would ever be /that/ bad, right?) and has unfounded aggression issues, classify them as mentally ill and remand them to a modern day asylum (mental health facility) which are generally staffed by overworked and underpaid employees … at best.
That kind of thing happens a lot more often than a lot of people realize.
Maybe check out how Dr. Phil seems to have had no problem his entire career sending unruly children to what are effective labor camps in the middle of no where.
Oh and lets just continue to pretend that the field of therapists and psychologists hasnt had a huge problem of uh, becoming sexually intimate with their clients, and lets also pretend that problem is completely solved.
Oh and lets also pretend that mental health facilities totally all attract the most well paid and tenured psychiatrists who never ever prescribe mind altering medication based on a single evaluation of a client in a 5 minute conversation, while the child is likely in a panicked state from either fleeing massive trauma, or being traumatically forced to go somewhere they do not want to go.
It sucks. If you can find a /good/ therapist or what not, they can literally save your life. But if you don’t, well, not so great. And a child is not going to be able to recognize the difference most of the time, until its too late.
Well that’s shit, no wonder online discussion groups / safe spaces are so popular over there. That does raise a different issue though, the USA-dominated (and consequently often USA-centric) view presumably warps the view of people seeking help from places where they can and should be talking to real medical professionals.
Yeah… Americans have very expensive, fairly low quality healthcare compared to much of the rest of the developed world… and we also have garbage quality public education compared to much of the developed world.
If you are an average, poor, barely educated American kid from an abusive family, chances are you do not even realize that people from other countries use the internet as well.
The ‘joke’ during the Bush years was that Americans learn geography through our wars.
This isnt a joke anymore. Our education systems are worse today, in general, than when I was a kid… Most American kids are basically unaware of the rest of the world, other than a few famous landmarks from a movie or music video.
I met an 18 year old a few months ago who was an otherwise capable and reasonable person… but I had to explain to him that the Iron Man movies were not documentaries.
He actually thought they were at least based on real life events, genuinely.
And he was actually fleeing an abusive family.
In America these days, schools are terrible, Parents are usually very overworked, very stressed out, come home from work and either go to bed, or zone out with TV, Video Games or Booze or Drugs.
They rarely spend quality time with their kids, as the average American worker is far worse off in many respects than many other parts of the developed world.
But uh anyway… yeah Americans usually just assume by default that everyone on the internet speaking english is also American, at least via text, myself included usually, unless some particular non American vernacular or cultural reference is used or whatever.
Usually when you tell the average American that basically most Europeans and many Asians and Africans are just also taught English in addition to their mother tongues during standard childhood education, they do not even believe you, or are astounded by this fact. (Exception to this is; Unless they are from a recently immigrated family.)
I am not quite sure what you mean, or if I am understanding what you are saying near the end of your comment though.
Are… poor, abused, poorly educated American children somehow going to be able to access quality mental healthcare from outside their country? How would they pay for it? How would they travel to it?
Or do you more mean that basically people should use like country flags on such discussion groups so that people at least generally know what country their given advice should apply to?
/s … right…?
Stamets, I love you. You are a source of joy in my life. I hope you have a good night, friend.
Not sure how I feel about you just ignoring everything I say and saying “goodnight”.
Hush now. It will be over soon. The gas will make you sleep.