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If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.
“But its a generic question!”
Two words: common courtesy.
People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.
They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.
To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.
So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.
This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work
Nah it’s one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds
So an idiot.
If someone asks you about your taste in music, then clearly music matters to them.
It’s kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.
her persistence indicates he is physically attractive
As my wife will tell you, there are benefits to being married to an insufferable douchebag. Chiefly, you can be pretty confident they won’t play around on you, because no one else will have them.
He has a valid point there. If he doesn’t want to say , you keep talking the same shit and expect a different answer?
Id say she got to know just about eveything she needed to know about this person.
As a dude…
Dude…
This is so weird. The first response was somewhat acceptable if in a joking manner but then he quintuple downed.
Someone’s insecure about his Shakira collection.
Seriously though, I’m guessing this guy either doesn’t like music at all (I’ve known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It’s a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.
Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.
I didn’t even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally “normal”?
I used to not like music at all and 15 year old me would have probably responded just like this guy. But for me it was more that I didn’t know what I liked until I heard it. Everyone around me exclusively listened to top 40 and RnB, or techno/house. I seriously thought there was something wrong with me cos I hated everything I heard. And then I heard metal for the first time, and everything changed.
that’s a beautiful story that happened to me as well
horns up, mate
\m/
Nobody’s normal, we are all weird in our own way.
We’re going to talk a lot about “normal” in this class, but “normal” just means average. If any one person was exactly “normal” in every aspect, they’d be the most unique human to ever live.
- my favorite bio-psych professor in college.
Apparently my great grandmother didn’t like any music. And people in general. But of course this was in the gramophone era, so maybe she was just an audiophile and couldn’t stand the quality…
I used to jokingly say “I don’t really listen to music” when people would open with that at college parties. The reactions were worthwhile.
I played guitar in a band.
“I don’t listen to music”
“…but you play guitar?”
“Yes. With very good earplugs.”
”I just play it, I don’t listen to it.”
As a fellow guitar player in an active band; I also say this to people a lot lol. I love the looks some people give when they don’t know I’m joking.
My father in law doesn’t like music. He doesn’t dislike it either, he’s just indifferent. Apart from that he’s just your garden variety somewhat-curmudgeonly 80-year-old dude.
There’s a lot of good examples in the comments, but the few Ive ran into were more indifferent thsn anything - like, they never heard anything that appealed to them. One guy I knew actively avoided music because it’d get stuck in his head and drive him nuts.
They seemed normal otherwise, for the most part. But they knew that disliking music was weird and were a little insecute about it.
I don’t dislike music, but I do view it as something very situational. I only listen to music when I’m going somewhere by bike or foot or when I’m working out. I blame my 4 years of being a mail carrier for creating this 1 to 1 connection between moving and listening to music. I never put on music when I’m home. But I dislike ‘background’ anything in general. I’ve never in my life put on a movie, TV show or podcast as ‘something to listen to in the background’. That’s baffling to me. Music is the same I guess. If I’m home it’s automatically background because I’m not gonna sit om my couch and stare at a wall while I listen to music. While if I’m working out or going somewhere I can intentionally listen.
early shakira songs in spanish are the bomb though, look up her mtv unplugged album
Oh absolutely, no shade on Shakira at all. Just using her as an example of something a guy might be insecure about - which is of course, stupid. Don’t be insecure about liking music, folks.
ayooo whenever, wherever is 🔥🔥🔥 fr fr on god no cap fam
I used to share my music taste quite openly but these days not so much. Sharing stuff just gives some people more ammo to shoot you with when they want to try hold shit over your head
You don’t have a music taste problem, you have a social circle problem. Those people aren’t your friends. Who, other than a kid in school, would willingly spend time with someone who “holds shit over your head”?
Who, other than a kid in school, would willingly spend time with someone who “holds shit over your head”?
When that person is your parent. We don’t all get to choose nice and supporting families.
My mother would do that. I don’t tell her anything beyond how the weather is anymore.
Bro doing “being mysterious” the wrong way
Bro is being long term single if this is his game.
How do you read light yellow text on darker yellow background?
Once life has given you enough lemons, you become really good at discerning shades of yellow.
It’s kinda the prerequisite to getting into online dating
Sounds like urine trouble to me
One word at a time
Is the text actually yellow or are colors bleeding due to the image compression?
Even if it was white, is kind of a bad contrast for reading.
Agree, still not good design
It would still be better if it was just 2 normal size screenshots though instead of one terrible merged one.
With sunglasses like everyone else. Duh
Yeah someone crosspost this on c/fraccessibility
“It’s something you’ve never heard of”
“How do you know?”
“…because I’m never going to tell you about it”
Maybe it’s just a super closely guarded musical secret he has to keep. The cabal of music keepers does not take blabbermouths lightly
Hammerfall. That is all.
Technically the truth
That yellow background is so unreadable 🍌
What confuses me is why they chose to use white text there… surely the orange background is bright enough for black text to be far easier to read?
Yes, this is 100% black text material. Like it’s not even a question lol.
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This is literally out of these incel playbooks. Straight up tater tot bullshit lmao.
This guy is more of a volcel
We should make subcategories it’ll be fun!
He did WHAT??
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The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines:
“What’s the last song you saved?”
'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you'“Okay, if you’re aren’t willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn’t the kind of relationship I’m looking for. Good luck and have a nice day” [ends transmission]
That sure would be nice but that pesky ego/personality is a tough one to ignore.
I personally found that a lot of the women I talked to on dating apps acclimate themselves by becoming more jaded, sarcastic etc as a defense.
Can’t blame em haha
If only people were straight forward and detached.
Fantasy: “This relationship is not working out anymore, it is time for a break up/ divorce so we can move on with our long term lives in a more positive way.”
“Yes I agree let us proceed forward in a calm and reasonable manor with no screaming or anger. We shall split assets in a fair and non-childish way.”
“Okay I will be staying in another house/motel until the house is sold, have a good one”
“You too!”
Reality: 5 hours of incoherent scream fighting, crying and baseless threats followed by another 5 hours of passionate makeup sex
latter sounds great, not really where OP is headed lmao
Tate is telling people not to be open about their interests?
Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens.
It’s classical abuse techniques
How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There’s nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean?
Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you”
“Come on tell me”
“Haha no”
That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in”
Man, I don’t understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing
I don’t think there’s anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community … Or whatever the fuck they call it these days…
Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever “trick” this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying “I AM VERY BORING”. I don’t get how this attracts anyone.
Hard cringe
“Why do girls keep ghosting me? I’m such a nice guy! Bohooohoooo”
I’ve never had such an annoying color combination for a text message.
You know… It’s seeing this type of stuff I’m so happy I found my wife the old fashioned way before dating apps existed.
seriously. I’d be doomed to die alone if i hadn’t met my wife in college. thank god my friends decided to set us up on a blind date because we had the same birthday and they thought it was funny
I am also happy that my marriage was arranged.
I found my spouse through a dating app, but we matched up really well since neither of us like this kind of shitty small talk.
If I were that lady I’d boot the hell outta that dude, such a prick.
But you got to know what kind of person she is, right? The app did its job.
Realistically, the yellow bubbles is a he
