How much time have you spent being single?

If you’re currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you’re currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

  • ApostleO@startrek.website
    181·
    7 months ago

    Currently somewhere around 10 years single.

    I struggle with social cues, anxiety, etc.

    It’s lonely.

    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyzOP
      8·
      7 months ago

      I’ve been single for about 7 years myself & struggle with the same thing.

      Would you say that you’re confident in yourself or not so much?

      • ApostleO@startrek.website
        3·
        7 months ago

        Confidence? Not so much. But it’s less a fear of rejection, and more a fear of upsetting someone.

        In short, my thought process goes like this:

        • Approaching women can make them uncomfortable.
        • I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.
        • Therefore, I don’t approach women.

        I basically limit myself to online dating, but as we all know, that’s a shit show unless you’re in the top 10% on the scale of attractiveness. And so I’ve been single 10+ years.