Summary

Caroline Darian’s book reveals her father’s abuse of her mother, including drugging and inviting strangers to rape her.

Darian also discovered disturbing photographs of herself, leading her to question whether she was also a victim of her father’s abuse. “How could he have photographed me in the middle of the night without waking me? Did he also drug me? Worse still, did he abuse me?”

The trial of Dominique Pelicot and 50 other men accused of raping his wife continues, with expert testimony suggesting the perpetrators were not ordinary men.

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    In court, expert psychiatrist Laurent Layet, who interviewed 20 of the accused – including Pelicot three times – said they could not be described as “ordinary men…because that would be tantamount to saying that all men are capable of such acts.”

    Yes, and? We choose the bear.

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      This is almost getting the point of Arrandts ‘banality of evil’ comment.

      Most human evils are done by ordinary humans.

      There is nothing specially evil about Nazis.

      Fascist governments are made up of ordinary people.

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      I am not capable of such an act. It’s really weird for you to say I don’t exist.

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        Unless the rapist guys’ skin turns green so they can be easily told appart from the good ones, women are going to chose the bear.

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          That’s reasonable and understandable. Calling every man a rapist is not.

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            I agree. Where did anyone do that? All I see is women using my argument to protect themselves. Aramis87 acknowledged the existence of good men with “yes”, then expressed it’s still safer to chose the bear, which it is.

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        Ordinary men are doing these things. Not all ordinary men, but ordinary men nonetheless. To call them anything but ordinary is to make out like they’re some special breed but they’re just ordinary men.

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      As a father of a daughter, that’s the best choice.

      The bear might have eaten recently, I’d rather risk that than the alternative.

      Men are so utterly broken, have been forever.