• Cheradenine@sh.itjust.works
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      1 month ago

      It would have been criminal under the law. I cheated, she cheated. It was the law, whatever agreement she and I had was immaterial.

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        That’s just how the system is. My wife and I are into bdsm. Legally speaking I’m guilty of spousal abuse because she legally can’t consent.

        So we just ignore the law. But if we ever divorced acrimoniously she could rake me over the fucking coals.

    • Jerkface (any/all)@lemmy.ca
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      You don’t have to be married to cheat. You are right, they are totally different things. Marriage is a legal status that has nothing to do with sex. Asexual people can get married. Two straight men can get married. People in open relationships can get married.

      You want it to be illegal to cheat. That’s bonkers. How would that even work? Do you really want the state investigating your intimate relationships to make sure they are legal??

      Why should only sexual intercourse get that kind of protection? If my partner and I swear that we will share our feelings with each other, and I find out that they have feelings they’ve been keeping from me but sharing with someone else, that is cheating. But as long as there isn’t a dick and a vagina involved, it’s okay? Like where do you draw your lines, and why do you want those lines enforced by men with guns?