Seems the UK is going through their own Cosby moment right now with the David Walliams allegations

I write science fiction, mostly, and dip my toes into other genres of speculative fiction (horror, fantasy, alt history, etc). I read these genres extensively, which has made me realize what “works” and what doesn’t from a story/character/concept standpoint. Reading in general has also greatly contributed to my vocabulary. I definitely take a lot of inspiration from other writers - currently some of my biggest inspos are Kim Stanley Robinson, Sheri S. Tepper, JG Ballard, and Ray Bradbury - but I find that the more you read, the easier it is to interweave elements of different authors without being an obvious imitation.

I should also note that I’m not a published author, just someone who writes for fun lol

Try to learn to value yourself for something other than looks. It can be HARD and takes real work and introspection, but you can learn to decenter beauty from your life and shake off the self-hatred. It won’t necessarily change the way people treat you, but at the very least, a sense of self-worth will give you some armor.

To be clear, I’m an objectively ugly woman. Fat, pale, frizzy haired, extremely asymmetrical, the works. Things that have worked for me have been pursuing hobbies, solo travel, reading a whole lot, getting into fashion, and seeking therapy, of course. I also find it helpful to seek out opinions and perspectives online from folks who don’t fit the beauty standard - fat people, disabled people, unconventionally attractive people, etc.

Sending nothing but love and empathy your way. I was in a very similar spot at 23, and I’m happy to say by 29 I think I’ve come to accept myself despite my looks.

Melatonin - it exists in your body naturally, so I wouldn’t really consider it a pharmaceutical aid. 5mg usually does the trick for me.

Also, tension tamer tea. It comes in a box with a dragon on the side (hell yeah). One cup will put me right to sleep.