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Cake day: August 26th, 2025

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  • Once upon a time I had an outdated computer running Windows, and got good at fixing it. So I started fixing my grandparents and cousins computers, and they started calling me when they had an issue. 9 years ago I switched to Linux (which fixed every issue I had), and now when they ask me to fix their Windows 11 I just sit in front of the thing with a blank stare.

    edit: 9 years, not 7




  • Offering to hang out once in a while is nice. Without going into fancy considerations, it’s nice

    Do be careful when suggesting specific activities, it can feel like you’re telling them what to be (and cause reactance). If you had parents doing it to you, you know the issue

    I don’t think the “judging” part matters. They are likely to be unhappy at some point in the future, and if you happen to be proposing something different at that time, they might be more interested. This doesn’t need to be about judgement or respect, having a way into another life should always be desirable (as long as you’re not being an asshole)

    note that I am basing this on how I believe I would feel if I was them, and do not have any experience as your “role” here