I think this is not the right community for random news

Yes.

It’s not a utopia, but it’s the better social media platform for my mental health and I genuinely like it here.

Is it normal I still feel bad even though I’m trying to do good and redeem myself?

Yes it is. People hold on to regrets for a whole host of reasons. Some more understandable than others.

But being good is not a value. It doesn’t stay up or down and it doesn’t get “remedied” in the traditional way. The amount of caring for others you do is awesome.

And yet, not saying no is an extremely unhealthy habit. Everyone has boundaries, and other people don’t realize how things drain your energy if you don’t say no. If you’re not looking out for yourself, who is?

The things in your list, almost all of them are nice in theory, but in practice they can run you into the ground.

• battling your instincts and personality
• feeling very guilty about every little mistake
• doing odd jobs no matter the person or task or how much energy you have
• not saying no

Look at this list. This looks almost self-destructive. It’s a testament to you that you are able to survive considering all these habits, but this is way past noble.

Please say no if you feel you need to, never agree if you you really don’t want to, only do odd jobs if they are appropriate, extend some grace for all of your mistakes and never suppress your personality. These are selfish things, but you are the only one who can be selfish for you, so look out for yourself.

It’s good to reflect on things, but you are beating yourself down for it. That’s never appropriate, especially because people like you, who are self aware and want the best for others, are very much needed in this world.

Let’s say whatever you did that ended the marriage was bad, and they’d both be together if you didn’t do it.

You were 6. Even if you intended this, how the hell is a 6 year old gonna be able to grasp the consequences of their actions. People can do really bad things at any age, but at such a young age, most of the things that happen because of your actions are out of you hands.

Do other people blame you for it? Because that is fucked up. They should know better. You are already reflecting, but blaming literally never helps anyone. And that goes for yourself as well, don’t blame yourself, no matter what you did. You can take responsibility and try to repair the damage to the degree you can, but never blame yourself for not doing things that you are unable to do. Do your best, and that’s all you can do. Mistakes are par for the course.

Marriages are made of 2 people. You are not part of that marriage, even if you are part of the family. If your sole actions managed to split the marriage, that suggests so much else was going wrong. Did they trust each other enough? Why were they not able to handle whatever their child did? How come they didn’t make up again after whatever you did, or they didn’t at least try? See how many avenues those two have to fix it? But they didn’t. That’s not on anyone else, but them. A working marriage extends a truckload of trust, grace, and love to each other, and I suspect, even if your actions rocked the boat, that boat was a nut shell with fish sized holes in it. There’s no other way your actions could lead to this. Your actions might have been the match, but look at the barrels of gasoline that fueled the fire. At that point, there’s so many things that can destroy the marriage, because the marriage was very shakey in the first place.

Trying to think of the worst things you could have done to lead your parents to part, there’s nothing a 6 year can do that makes them responsible for it. Please don’t beat yourself down - the amount of self reflection you do leads me to think you are an awesome human being and people around you should be grateful for how much you care for them.

TL;DR There’s no way in hell you were or are responsible for what happened to your parents marriage, no matter what you did.

Imagine dancing and then suddenly: accidental sex!

Me.

Pretty sure it’s been a while since we found well preserved historical items from the second world war.

That’s what my estrogen dealer told me as well

I mean good for Nintendo. This doesn’t change their bad pr for the price increases though.

Edit: not really sure about the down votes. No matter your opinion, objectively some people didn’t like the price changes, so it is bad pr for them.

Every time we frack I get this feeling And every time we drill, I swear I can fly

It also suggests that boycotts are binary.

I’m sure you can see a noticeable decline in player retention for games from all 3 publishers vs the rest of the industry. And this goes for all of them.

Vibe coding is such a weird phrase to begin with. Why would you admit that your app runs on pure vibes in the first place?

That makes perfect sense.

For me the most annoying thing is that no one is pure evil, neither is he. So it’s hard to just blame him and and be done with it. Things are always complicated. A lot of the time there’s no one to blame. Because that doesn’t help. Not him, but also not yourself.

One thing though: you said there will always be a place in your heart for him and that you will always support him. Please make sure you prioritize yourself. Don’t give him too much of your time and energy. If you are a friend of him, he is a friend of yours. It’s real easy for people to invest everything just for some “what if”.

Someone needs to think of you and if it’s not him, it has to be yourself. Things will become normal, but until then someone needs to watch out for you.

Yes.

I always say the Internet is more vast than it is comprehensive. You will find infinite things. Infinite good things, but also infinite bad things, and infinite things on most topic.

But certain actors on there have an interest to highlight bad things. That makes it real easy to slip into a negative feedback loop. And there’s so much, you will into a bottomless hole.

And that’s when you always gotta peek your head over the horizon and look for things outside of your periphery. Because there’s more than problems.

Even if you look back at where we’ve come from, the amount of struggles we’ve overcome already as a society is hard to fathom.

My point is, either look for both negative and positive news accountings, or do neither and focus on a topic like games, or woodworking, or astronomy and just keep away from the sensational news pieces.

There’s more to life than news anyway.

That’s a lot.

It sounds like he only wants to be friends.

The things he is upset about are his issues. You are not his girlfriend, so you don’t need to address them because they don’t really concern him.

He is trying to set boundaries and it looks like he’s not good at it. It sounds like this is bad for both of you. But it looks like at this point there’s not gonna be a relationship.

The only thing you can do is find a way to move on. All the good things, but all the bad things as well will stop and things will be different, but there’s nothing really you can do. However what you two do together is up to you. If you need some time to process, tell him and take your time. If you think you can go back to being friends - try it, but be mindful this will be hard.

You are not your mistakes, and some of the things he said are his issues to deal with. Your body count? Sure he can be upset but that’s not on you to change. You told him the truth and the only thing he can do is accept it or break up and move on.

Right now it sounds like you two are not a great fit. He doesn’t value you enough to trust you, and you are trying to hold onto him even though he doesn’t trust you.

Maybe at some point things can be different but not right now and you need to have a life outside of him so you don’t get hung up on mind games.

Somewhere there’s someone who loves you for all you are but if it’s not him then that’s how it is. And if it is him, then there’s a lot of things he needs to learn before it might work. Don’t wait for that, you need to keep doing you for now.

Lots of love for Starbound, that game is underrated af.

“I swear the cat food got ripped open all by itself”

Make music, perform music, make games, make movies, write small books and maybe draw pictures.

And then I would try out being a research attorney, being an EMT, a pilot, maybe working with NASA at some point and working for some government agency specializing in digital warfare.

People always assume if you had everything you would just sit at home and be lazy and never try anything. But from my experience you don’t do that shit just because you’re complacent, you do it because either you are way too stressed out to try out new stuff or you are in the middle of a depressive episode. Almost all people I know wouldn’t be able to be lazy for more than 2 weeks, they would start making something.

It has “safe seas” now iirc

Thank you the kitten was my main concern :P

Things that might be helpful:

• how long y’all been together?
• what’s her relationship to her family?
• how many people and how big is the place?
• (when) do you intend to get your own place?
• what country and would you be able to afford your own place soon?
• are there specific reasons you would move in other than “she lives there and we wanna be together”?
• how far is the move from your place currently?
• can you find me an image of a kitten? I love those.

Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll find your way :)