Must be ugly men who can’t even get a lady to open the door for them…

But for real, I’m a woman who opens the door for people who are approaching regardless of their gender and I wish for few things more than exclusively women who say things like this to have to deal with the men who get all pissy at a woman holding the door for them

Roosevelt did pretty well in 100 days

There’s a gesture? I’m fucking old

Well yeah, but it makes me tired and food fixes it.

Maybe rephrase your comment if you don’t want it to be interpreted the way I interpreted it.

I used to think the sound of cicadas was the sound of sunlight, because it always seemed louder the brighter it was.

I definitely gain energy in a colloquial sense from food when I’m hungry.

Like, if I haven’t eaten much that day, I’ll want to nap around 16/17, then I’ll be alert and energetic again if I eat dinner instead of napping.

Thank goodness we don’t judge people based on their heritage, like Nazis.

I bet NATO would have defended Greece against Turkey, but that’s different. Somehow.

Would have been nice if you’d engaged.

notable difficult language

If it helps, this is relative. If you learn one tonal language, others are then easier to learn.

It’s probably actually an eyebrow/beard hair unless you really pissed someone off.

Ehh. If it’s a clump of hair, absolutely. If it’s one hair, we live in an imperfect world and it happens- please don’t waste food instead of just pulling the hair out.

If they’re an actor who can no longer act as a result of trauma, it could be partly lost wages.

It’s basic chivalry

It’s been a decade or more since I did it, but I wasn’t very frequently sick at the time, nor am I now. I do get more severely sick than my husband now, but he’s an overweight omnivore and I’m an underweight vegan, so I assume it’s more related to that. Itchy nostrils sound awful, but I’ve never had them.

I can fit quarters and €2 coins in my nostrils. I used to have a drunkenness level that would prompt me to assert this at parties or bars, and then I’d obviously show people.

Nobody wants their coins back after that, but it’s not very lucrative and I shudder to think now about the diseases I tempted.

My sister and I are both tall and skinny, but also broader than shorter women. Like, my sisters ribs are all visible from every side and she wears a size 6 pants. I know short women who aren’t nearly as skinny for whom size six pants are too big.

Nigerias got oil, it’s not a secret

I find confrontation pretty difficult, and I force myself to be direct and assertive about my needs and wants with my husband, because he deserves it. A common mistake I made in previous relationships was bottling up things I didn’t like, but that leads to resentment every time. I understand the value of communicating openly with him, even if it feels like I’m not being “chill” enough and he is receptive to it, but it doesn’t mean it’s not hard.

My husband has a similar problem with talking about his preferences, because he was always taught that they’re secondary to his partner’s. He finds it difficult to tell me that he wants to spend time on solo activities, but I encourage him to practice his hobbies. Even though he knows I’m happy for him to decompress however works for him and to engage in the things that bring him joy, he still struggles against himself to do it, for us.

I make decisions differently because of our marriage (I have pretty significant executive dysfunction, so these might not sound like struggles to others, but they certainly have been for me)- where I previously might have just eaten lentils in a lean month, I now push myself to work more to support us. Where I used to write papers in a 48 hour frantic dash, now I start earlier and make sure I can allot breaks for meals with him and a regular sleep schedule (we live in basically a studio apartment, so keeping the computer on makes it hard for him to sleep). Where I would have left laundry hanging on the drying rack basically until I wore it again, I now force myself to put it away as soon as it’s dry (again because of the space issue).

I don’t think the marriage certificate itself caused these changes, but knowing that we’re in it for the long haul changed how I think about my relationship with my husband. I realized that I needed to work on myself to become the partner he deserves, but other people might be able to get to that mindset without the permanence of marriage. I just wasn’t and didn’t realize it until it changed.

Each of those changes is a positive one imo, even without considering their effects on our marriage, and we’re both improved for having married each other. That’s not even addressing the joy of being able to fully relax with the knowledge that your partner loves, accepts, and supports you, and will stay with you, even if things get difficult.