I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?
Republicans shouldn’t be allowed to hold office. Every one of their ideas is bad. Someone saying “I’m a republican” should get responses akin to someone saying “I eat paste” or “I kick puppies.” Stupid or cruel, it doesn’t matter, they’re bad people.
“A lot of people will tell me, ‘oh, I wish I could be polyamorous or a relationship anarchist, but I just get too jealous.’ And it’s like, well, I get jealous too. I’m not void of that emotion. I also experience jealousy. If my partner is talking to somebody new, I feel threatened by that. But the way to deal with that is not to make some rule about how your partner is engaging with other people. It’s to figure out what you need to do for yourself,” they say. “It’s really fucking hard, actually.”
This is a good point. It’s one of my peeves when people are like “oh i’m too jealous” and leave it at that. That’s a flaw and time bomb you can work on.
A friend of mine told me about how a guy in her friend group broke up with his girlfriend because he didn’t like that she was dancing at a concert. He just leapt all the way to the idea that she was cheating on him. The insecurity would be laughable if I wasn’t low grade worried he’s going to do violence to a woman in the future. Just chill out, my guy.
In college I was dating someone, and she was like “What would you do if I made out with a guy at a party??” I thought about it for a while, and asked “Are you going to come back to me after? We’ll still be together?”. She was like, “Yeah.” I thought about it some more and went, “OK. So long as you show up for our plans, and are safe, it’s not a problem for me. I want you to be happy.” She didn’t like that answer.
I think the dating apps are all trash, though, and are making everything worse. It creates the illusion that they’re a means to meet people you’ll like, but their incentives are only engagement and subscriptions. Actually introducing you to people you’ll get along with is a secondary concern at best. Some of them have options to specify monogamy or not, but none of them are especially good at it.
Recommendations for…? Just any music?
Caroline Rose’s new album is very good and very human: https://carolinerosemusic.bandcamp.com/album/year-of-the-slug
Tagged as “alternative psychobilly acoustic guitar alt-country alternative pop art pop folk indie indie folk indie pop indiepop rock n roll shoegaze Los Angeles”
Sparse areas have other costs. Like, you can’t get anywhere without a car, there’s fewer jobs, less social stuff. Cities have much higher potential on most metrics that matter.
“Use a different language” is a common defense of javascript, but kind of a weird one.
Yeah. My last job, a PR with commented out code typically wouldn’t get approved. Either leave it in version history, or stick it on a branch
Not to my face. But as someone else said, it’s rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.
No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.
Do you think they realize that they made her look fun (smiling) and him look awful (scowling, wearing a school child backpack, bad haircut) ?
The bar is set REALLY low
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
Meta should be broken up and its leadership barred from working in tech (or politics)
If they were capable of rising above their quagmire of fear and hate, they probably wouldn’t be conservatives. It’s not about facts or consistency. It’s about feelings. Mostly fear of the out-group.
I don’t think they thought about it very much. It’s like that spongebob meme where patrick has the wallet. Or the Friends one that I don’t know the name of the template. You could go point by point building up a case for why there should be government regulations, but as soon as you say like “regulation” they go “Nope bad”
Though some people really do believe they as a rugged individual will be able to research and test all of their food without an FDA or whatever. If they buy bread that has sawdust in it, they’ll be able to tell, and somehow get a refund, or buy some other bread that doesn’t have sawdust. That seems like a lot of work and optimism compared to regulations and inspections by qualified professionals earlier in the process.
I was at a bar once that the men’s room on the upper floor only had urinals. If you wanted to shit or piss in some privacy, you had to go to the bathroom on the lower floor.
People are weirdly, emotionally, invested in meat. Like it’s part of their identity.
I enjoy the taste of meat but I recognize it’s not good for the environment or the animals. So I avoid eating meat. It’s not a big deal. But for some people they act like you’re going to eat them and bury their bones in an unmarked grave.
This kind of problem falls under “communicating badly and acting smug when misunderstood”. Use parenthesis and the problem goes away.
Most email is short. I don’t see a need to summarize it. Google is run by idiots and assholes.
It went basically like any reasonable person expected it to. Unfortunately many people in the US are unreasonable
I’ve been stuck on this thought that people making decisions are often idiots.
We’re sort of told that management is smart. That big business leaders are visionaries. If someone’s the director of engineering they’re probably smart right?
No. They’re just people. People that have the skills to get promoted, but those aren’t the same skills to do anything else.
I think it would matter less if there was more competition and more stakes. If some business puts idiots in charge and the whole company dies, okay. But instead we have Google just shitting the bed for years, and there aren’t consequences.
This is a capitalist hell
Also the text says
That’s not a metaphor. The camel thing was a colorful metaphor to demonstrate the point.
That’s luke 18:22
Most people who call themselves Christians do a piss poor job of it. Some of them then go “oh well I’ll be forgiven it’s okay”. That’s not really following the intent. That’s trying to take advantage of someone’s kindness.