I’ve( 22M ) been an overthinker for almost my entire life. Not only that, I have hyper-anxiety and overwhelmness. I haven’t been scheduled with a psychiatrist so far.
A few months ago, I seriously realized that I was wasting my time on devices( phones, laptops etc) and haven’t been paying attention to real life and responsibilities. Because I had made devices as a way to escape from reality.
Then I made a schedule to maintain that included low and controlled use of devices and some other things. Journaling was also a part of that.
I began to write my daily events on a journal app in my phone. I had a physical diary that I started to use to write down advices, methods, facts, important instructions that I was gathering from youtube. That diary is now filled around 60%.
I continued writing my daily journal in the app for 1.5 months and then lost the drive to continue for unknown reason. Consider this one of my main psychological problem. I lose drive very quickly.
Then I realized that, when I continued journaling, I had more control of my overall daily activity that I used to do. I had less laziness, more energy, more drive, healthy sleep schedule etc. And now, it seems that I’ve sunken into my peak rabbithole again.
Now I’m seeking advices from people who turned their life in a positive way by writing journals as a first step. Any other advices except journaling is also welcomed.
it can help when you feel like ranting to someone
It helps when trying to make difficult questions
You can also write your daily experiences to look back on the changes
If you have a therapist, it also helps for them to check your state, prevents you from forgetting to mention anything important or if you lock up because you’re feeling emotional or having a panic attack
If you have a logical side that’s hurting from human problems a journal can help you regain a sense of control and plan out your next actions, where ordinarily you might freak out or make split second decisions even if you normally wouldn’t want to do it or know it would be bad but being unable to help yourself
Thank you to all who gave me precious advices and insights.
I’ve grasped my understanding of thought process and ways to channel them through different methods like journaling.
I’ve also learned not to feel down in my unaccomplishment and to go forward no matter what. Because in the long run, it’s the action that counts. If I do nothing, I’ll succumb into the loophole of my unaccomplishment more which will make the mental toll on me greater.
Also, I’ll give you guys update if I can shift in a way I’ve never walked before. Peace 🤝🫂
I use Joplin mostly with a two way NAS sync, but it’s not usually profound for me. Doesn’t really include my day to day experience, and acts more like an external memory bank and junk drawer.
Looks like this.
Really I’ve been relying heavily on Signal’s note to self feature, while Joplin is more long form in my case.
Snake Juice?
Signal has a note to self feature?
Yep.
It’s quite handy considering there’s a desktop app too. So I also use it as an alternative to stuff like syncing OS clipboards between various computers, since the idea of Microsoft having access to mine gives me the ick.
Yeah, I use obsidian now for notes to self instead of Google keep but signal sounds good for things I don’t want to organize in the moment. As well as a synced clipboard
I’ve started to use “Capacities” recently.
I just write down events of the day 1 sentence in a line. Timestamps excluded.
Oooh a block-based editor, for an over-thinker I bet that’s like crack haha.
Glad you discovered ways to organize your noisy mind. I’ll have to share Capacities with a dear friend who has a mind more like yours.
Writing is a form of thinking, particularly on topics and information that nobody but you knows. If that form of thinking is beneficial to your wellbeing, then prioritize it.
This is tangent, but I think that AI is going to have negative effects on human psychology because writing something yourself as a way to think is better than having an AI write it for you and you just agree with it and edit it.
I never really saw the point of journaling, so it never “took” for me.
I write a bunch of stuff down, and then what? What do I “do” with it? Do I read it again later? No, I won’t do that. Somebody else reads it? No, it’s not intended for that.
So, I don’t journal as such.
I do organize my tasks and things to remember in a bullet journal (bujo) format, though, and that helps. But it’s less about thoughts and feelings (long-winded opinions and observations), and more about tasks and events (simple and concise one-liner statements of fact).
I do like bujo to keep my work organized.
Ok, on a side note, the idea of a “commonplace” book does sound kind of appealing, though; but I guess my life is too busy to afford me the leisure and luxury of analyzing literature, writing poetry, and sketching natural wonders, or whatever. I’ve got too much shit to do. My few fleeting moments of “free time” are spent here, complaining (wow those naughty word filters are way too strict) about MAGA, basically.
that’s only a thing on .ml, the rest of lemmy agrees that censoring “bitching” is pretty silly
I’m relatively new to Lemmy: what instance(s) in your (collective) opinion strike that sweet spot between being a) very free speech oriented and minimally censored, but also b) not taken over by alt-right CHUDs, trashed up like 4chan, or hosting CP, gore, and all that nastiness that comes with zero moderation?
What I’m looking for, is just enough moderation to keep out the 4chan shit, but anything below that threshold of actually hurting people, pretty much goes uncensored.
I just want to use the c-word, b-word, and r-word, basically. Like, there are a lot of stories posted involving JD Vance, so…
This one
yeah you said it better haha
my instance (lemmy.dbzer0.com, commonly referred to as db0) is an anarchist leftist comm.
it’s also where r/privacy migrated to, you can find them (megathread and all) at !piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
lemmy.ml, hexbear.net, and lemmygrad.ml are often called the “tankie triad” because they’re full of tankies, people will often mistake you for a tankie just by the virtue of being on that instance.
as for other instances,
.world is the biggest and quite liberal/centrist/moderate with pretty heavy handed moderation.
lemmy.blahaj.zone is by trans people for trans people, I believe non-trans allies are allowed on it but if you’re not LGBT it’s probably not the best place for you.
pawb.social is furries
lemm.ee, lemmy.ca and sh.itjust.works I don’t know the politics of but I would assume leftist and I haven’t heard anything bad said about any of them, will leave anything past that to others.
this might be worth a post of its own if you’re looking for more info than that tbh
but yeah really you’re not gonna find right wing CHUDs or cp or gore or anything here there’s generally good enough content moderation to prevent that and really the only instance with crazy censorship is the one you picked lol
r/privacy
!piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.comlol piracy vs privacy :D Nice spelling miatake. But it still fits and checks out.
I’d assume sh.itjust.works is just primarily IT related communities
Journaling is OK but what really keeps me grounded is an habit tracker. Without it my life is pure chaos.
Do you mind expanding on this? What habits are you tracking?
I just want to say how amusing I find it that a thread full of journalers only consists of very long comments. But overall I agree, journaling rocks. Helps organize my thoughts, and reading week-old entries helps keep my memory sharp.
I’ve been journaling for the past few years and, like a lot of people will say, it’s not the magic bullet people want it to be. But it is a great tool for sorting thoughts, tracking events, and just a general brain dump. But we all slip every now and again but I will say my experience lines up with yours. I feel that journaling has helped to keep things in my life in control because it forces me to A) keep tabs on myself and B) keep track of the things going on around me.
Another thing is that there is some scientific research that shows writing by hand is better for journaling and memory. I think that by going back to the app after writing so much didn’t help your case. Part of the problem with digital journaling is that distractions are just a button press away. When I sit down to write at the end of the day: my computer is off, my phone is on the desk or charging, and it’s usually quiet or some music on. Being a daily ritual helps keep the train on track. If I dont get to it on the evening then it’s usually the first thing I do in the morning. Routine helps a lot.
Lastly, the tools you choose make a difference. There are a lot of journaling systems out there aside from a notebook/diary. The pens you use should be ones you enjoy using. I’m a fountain pen person and will use a different pen each day and can rotate pens and ink to suit what i feel like using. You could color coordinate entries depending on the mood, emotion, or day. There is a lot out there to make your journal unique instead of black ink in a notebook.
Lastly I will say sometimes life just gets too hectic. You can get so busy, tired, or burned out that you just default to survival mode. For me its ultimately a matter of discipline/ roitine to stay on track and keep up with it as much as possible.
I wrote journals for years, they help a little. I used them to vent, to discuss with myself about stuff I couldn’t discuss with someone else, put thoughts in order, practice calligraphy (people now praise my handwriting), etc. I never took it as a chore, so when I didn’t feel like it I didn’t write.
I went to cognitive behavioural therapy and that not only helped the most, it gave me tools to get out of the hole when I fall into it.
Also helped to stop pretending anything on a screen is social interaction. I ditched every social platform except reddit and now lemmy, these two, because I don’t know anyone feel different
You might want to check if you have ADHD buddy
To be honest, I did kinda tried to match my symptoms to the symptoms of ADHD. But not through a professional source or person. You know, there are a handful of 2-3 people on insta who talk about mental health. I don’t question their knowledge, authority or authenticity but according to them( as they explained some symptoms of ADHD), my overall psychological function and its effects on my physiological state heavily match to the symptoms of ADHD and its after-effect.
Another problem I’ve been facing for around 2 years is that, I get emotionally dissociative when I’m in a critical life crisis. For example, I didn’t took my registration card to one of the most important exams in my life. There was another girl who also made the same mistake and literally fainted on the road out of fear and anxiety.
Whereas I, standing near her, didn’t even faze or worry. Somehow I couldn’t care if the authority would let me attend the exam. But the authority actually let me attend.
Feel ya. Getting emotionally dissociated from my loved one after some silly arguing really sucks balls man. Shit scares me like all my love and emotional attachment are gone in a snap
I’ve been journaling for a few years, starting with a Mind Journal in COVID which I found really useful. It’s built to ease you into it, get you reflecting more and introspecting as well as build the habit by making it as easy as possible to note something down each day.
I don’t use their products any more as they are quite expensive but I’d definitely recommend looking into them for trying to turn journaling into a habit. I do use the system though which is for each day you note your feelings, 3 (or more) achievements which can be anything from got up and showered to got a promotion, 3 (or more) things your grateful for and a happy hour where you have or plan to do something good for yourself.
This is a really useful prompt I find because those bits only take a few minutes and are a great way to track things over time. For example looking back at my COVID journal I can spot when I started getting burned out by having feeling: tired every day for several months. Noting down what you’re grateful for is also proven to help your mood, basically you start looking for positive things more and it’s a happy feedback loop.
Once I’ve done those bits I write stream of consciousness style, anything that’s playing on my mind, details of my day, stuff I hope might or might not happen, things that made me angry. For me it’s a really useful medicine practice which has definitely helped keep my mental health more stable over the years.
I like having a nice book and pen to write in too, I’m looking forward to finishing this journal so I can upgrade the book to something more fancy, maybe going leather bound next time.
My main advice would be to stick with it, habits take a good 3 months or so to bed in. The mind journal is good for this as it makes it really easy to journal something and gradually builds you up to more free form writing.
Good luck with your journalling I hope you find something which works for you. There are loads of methods out there from billet journaling which helps like a load of work to me but looks amazing like an art project, to the VOMIT method to just get your thoughts onto the page. Keep at it, try to find what works for you and build the habit, but don’t stress if you miss a day or two.
Noted. ✍️ .
I used an app called “My Diary”. While I don’t particularly seek customization and colorful theme in the way, upon testing multiple diary app, this one caught my attention. Maybe because of its simplicity.
The last time I wrote an entry in this app was in 2nd February. The developing matter is that, from last week, I’ve started to write entries again but in a different note-taking app. I skipped the last 2 days but after getting responses from you guys, I think I CAN continue…
Thank you for sharing your experiences in details.🤝