Like usually every minute I’d quickly look around to make sure there aren’t weirdos following me.

For context: I’m a young-adult male, but I don’t exactly have training in martial arts or anything, so I’m every time I see anyone that looks “tough” I don’t feel safe.

When I was a kid, my parents told me the usual “stranger danger” talk. Also in movies and tv, there are usualy a lot of plot involving peoppe getting followed, and the victim never looks back. In crime stories, and in the news, people usually become a victim if a bad person follows them home.

So when I went to school as a kid/teen, I’d always be scanning my surroundings like very often, especially when nearing home, I’d be like looking around every 20 seconds to see if there’s weirdos following.

Even as a young adult, I kinda still have this instinct. I mean, we hear about crime everywhere. I don’t exactly live in a “slum”, but I live in a big city, and more people generally means more crime, and statistically, crime is sort of an issue where I live, I mean, it’a a city, you know how it is. This is in the US btw.

I don’t carry a gun, don’t wanna have intrusive thoughts about killing myself so I don’t want that, so I carry pepper spray just in case.

I mean, I’m probably not gonna change my behavior, I think its good to be cautious, this question is just me trying to see if there’s anyone else out there think thinks like me.

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    19 hours ago

    6’2 white man and I often walk with a dog, so no, people do not fuck with me.

    If I were a woman tho I’d be carrying a weapon, but not paranoid about it.

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      16 hours ago

      Also a bigger guy. I’m clearly not a fighter but I’ve never had a problem so I don’t worry about it. I’m actually quite the opposite, where once in a while I realize I have not been at all aware of my surroundings and force myself to discover them

      I’ve had this discussion with my teen. He’s not my size but he’s an athlete and weightlifter. Neither of us are anxious about taking our pitbull for late night walks, vs my ex who very much is