Newlyweds Jonathan Joss and Tristan Kern de Gonzales held each other in their final moment together Sunday.
Joss, 59, the voice actor best known as John Redcorn on “King of the Hill,” had just been shot in the head in front of their San Antonio home.
“I didn’t want him to struggle and everything, so I decided to tell him I loved him. And despite the severity of everything, he was able to look up at me and acknowledge what I was saying, so I know he heard me,” said Kern de Gonzales, 32. “I just kept telling him: ‘It’s OK. You need to cross over. You don’t need to keep struggling. You need to go ahead and cross over easy.’”
Kern de Gonzales said Joss’ killer also had final words for the actor. He called him and his husband “jotos,” a Spanish slur for gay people.
“I’ve been called that word while I was sitting on a bench with Jonathan, eating lunch,” Kern de Gonzales said. “And I got called that holding Jonathan while he died.”
Shortly after, police arrested one of the pair’s neighbors, Sigfredo Alvarez Ceja, 56, in connection with Joss’ killing.
I think the takeaway is just don’t live in Texas. For any reason.
The thing is, even if you give up and say, ok things will never change, I’m leaving my home bc I’ve accepted I don’t belong here, it spreads. The goal is to shape America into the reality they want. If you don’t stop it, it’s not contained to TX, or LA, or the south, or the fly-over states, or the suburbs/rural areas.
Look at Roe v Wade. That didn’t just happen overnight. State level policies spread from within and then eventually paralyzed a federal protection for the entire country.
The only reason that even happened was bc the same people that wanted segregated schools also wanted to maintain federal tax exemption, so they saw Roe v. Wade as an opportunity to gain support for their movement. It had nothing to do with being morally opposed to abortion.
The Real Origins of the Religious Right
6 years after Roe v. Wade, in 1979, the Heritage Foundation co-founder and political activist Paul Weyrich used abortion as a platform to deny Jimmy Carter a second term bc he knew it would be easier to get people on board regarding Roe v. Wade rather than getting people to support their movement protecting segregated schools.
Weyrich’s goal was to always gain power and ground for conservative values to dominate the entire country. He wrote about the need to dismantle the federal government decades before anyone heard of RAGE or DOGE.
They use federal bureaucracy as a talking point now for the same reasons they seized Roe v. Wade back then. Bc it’s a lot easier to get people on your side and convince them your goal is to get rid of unnecessary and “harmful” federal policy, rather than admitting your true goal is be allowed to steamroll federal protections with zero consequence.
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So the entire U.S. believes that? Across all those cities and states? Or does a select group of people seem to be speaking for the entire U.S. and making some very concerning policy decisions regarding federal protections?
That Politico article is an excellent read, thanks for sharing!
Thanks! I grew up southern Baptist and had no idea about any of that until very recently. Puts a very different spin on a lot of the things I grew up hearing.
Crazy to think that article is from 2014, and still somehow most people don’t know this information!
Yeah it’s incredible. I wish we had more responsible journalists and organizations instead of the corpo controlled slop we have.
Low cost of living states trap you.
I would LOVE to leave Oklahoma. But a lot of the same reasons I want to leave are the reasons I’m trapped here (legal discrimination against trans people, absolutely no form of support for domestic violence survivors, and crippling PTSD from growing up in a state that doesn’t view me as human.)
I got the hell out of my shit red state and moved to progressive bubble. Much respect, I don’t have to face the same struggles as you, but there are two openly trans people where I work and one is a red state bigotville escapee. Some super progressive places have support programs to help like this one: https://www.transrelocationfund.com/