Just came across this question on reddit and tbh…i don’t know
People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don’t know how to speak, i don’t smile often, i’m shy, i look very judgemental or i’m just too egotistic…so i don’t know if i’m actually someone worth hanging out with
And no i didn’t make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.
I don’t know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don’t really hold back against me
So what about y’all?
Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.
I would date, fuck, marry & kill myself
In that order, right?
I don’t see how “kill” could be in any other place than last.
Depends on if it a clone and you’re into necrophilia.
That’s a good sign.
…
You mean after the sex?
I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We’d code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.
We’d agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
I’ve never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.
We’d agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
You’ve revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.
Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.
Agreed! We both like the same shows… never fighting about what to have for dinner… it’s great
I Hang out with myself all the time. It’s fine.
Yeah, I’d hang myself.
…
Oh “hang out”.
No.Probably not. I don’t really want to be around people who act like me. I’ve done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I’m doing a good enough job.
people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there
If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?
I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.
But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.
Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation
That seems positive. But it’s your call.
For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.
I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.
It’s nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in
Masking is exhausting
Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I’m super friendly and fun and loving.
And humble!
Yeah. I would. I’ve been asking myself that for a long time and I’ve tried to become someone I would get along with.
♥️
I would love to hangout with myself. I’m quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.
I don’t have any friends because I’m disappointed in people my own age. I’d hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they’re all dead soooo…
I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions
I have met a person nearly exactly like me, and they make a great friend
So yes, I’d love to hang out with me, at least I’ll finally have someone that doesn’t keep deliberately misunderstanding my words to have an excuse to harass me
I would hang out with me. I would play boardgames and learn about obscure subjects that I am interested in.
I would have trouble coordinating schedules with myself.
No. I get introduced to people who are “like me” and I don’t like them off the hop.
I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.
People like me. I have friends. I like my friends. But I do question their judgement being friends with me.
I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.
Yeah. I get that with some of my family members. I try to use it as an opportunity to be more open and learn to like myself more, but it rarely works. I’d prefer it if they didn’t act the way I think.
