• JoeKrogan@lemmy.world
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    2 个月前

    No, it is not healthy and will go nowhere or could turn into an obsession in the worst case scenario. It is better to move on and find someone who is interested

  • SaltSong@startrek.website
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    As a pure act, I can’t see that it causes any harm.

    However, it will very likely lead to frustration, anger, and poor treatment of the person in question. Those things are bad.

  • 9point6@lemmy.world
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    No, once you know it’s not going to happen you need to do what you can to let the idea go.

    Holding into it is just tying an anchor to your happiness that will only get heavier.

  • Pennomi@lemmy.world
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    As always, the dose makes the poison. An occasional fantasy won’t harm you, but an obsession is unhealthy and will make your life hell.

  • neidu3@sh.itjust.worksM
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    No, nothing helpful will come from nurturing that fantasy.

    A relevant proverb I heard somewhere on a similar topic: You can’t prevent a bird from flying over year head. But you absolutely can prevent it from building a nest in your hair.

  • big_slap@lemmy.world
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    as everyone here has stated, gotta let it go. the good news is: 1 down, billions more to go! just have to get out there and meet new people that will respect the amount of effort you put into caring about them 🙂

    good luck!

  • Olkiss@lemmy.world
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    No, it is not good. For the one who fantasizes that person (frustration, anger, jealousy, sadness) and then the other person (fear, mistrust). There is more than 8 billions people on earth. So, countless possibilities for connection, friendship, and love 😀