One that always annoyed me is when it is around the holidays, when stores advertise gifts for men. They always assume a guy is into toilet humor, beer humor, assuming they’re a lumberjack who needs to survive out in the wilderness, are into bbq-ing all of the time so gotta have those available all year around for some reason.

Even when I used to have identified myself as a guy, I never once fit into any of those traits. Just because guys grow beards, doesn’t always mean they’re chopping wood somewhere and always wearing plaid.

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    the bar really is that low, tbf. congratulations you are in the top 0.1% of parents/dads

    lot of people out there that really shouldn’t be having kids because they’re barely aware of themselves let alone other people

    edit/crossing out dads

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      congratulations you are in the top 0.1% of parents/dads

      This right here is what this whole question is directed at.

      No, doing the basics does not put them in the “top 0.1% of dads,” like it’s some sort of anomaly (they might be, but it’s not because they changed diapers). Almost every dad I know is heavily involved in their kids lives, including when they are babies. I’m never the only dad at the park or the birthday party, and everything else. I have had many discussions with other guys about taking care of our babies, and it is very clear that it is a shared responsibility.

      Do more men bail on their kids or dump responsibility on their spouse than women? Sure. Is that currently the common thing, or what 99.9% of men do? Absolutely not.

      Stop perpetuating this stereotype, especially in a post about negative stereotypes.

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        fair enough, really meant that as comment towards parents as a whole. ime kids are basically accessories to many people, like the dog they don’t bother training or the spouse they never communicate with.