If you have a friend with a toddler and they are terminally or otherwise ill and you are financially able to help but choose not to because you don’t care, that doesn’t make you a “bad person”. Just because someone got themselves in some shit doesn’t mean you have to go and deal with it.
They did of course forget to remind him to not be a creep and only do it with women of the exact same age and financial situation. Maybe they thought it was obvious.