Because it’s very easy for someone emotionally detached to say that. A random commenter can say dump them and move on with their day. For OP that means letting go of an emotionally loaded aspect of their life and suffering through the heartbreak that comes with that for a while.

I imagine it’s because a lot of the relationship posts are outrageous tales of betrayal, violence, or gas lighting.

There’s a few big things to keep in mind.

1. The people coming to random strangers on the Internet for help are more likely at a last resort level in the first place. They want permission or validation to end things.
2. You only get one side of a story, which oftentimes makes things seem worse than they are. Any advice based on that is going to be more extreme. It’s difficult to impossible to figure out additional context that could change the circumstances.
3. Relationships are based on communication, it’s a bit of a red flag to be asking a lot of these questions to random strangers in the first place. The poster is also likely a toxic influence that the other person doesn’t need in their life.

Lots of questions about relations on social media are coming up when someone is at or close to wits end. So a lot of those questions get answered with recommendation of a separation.

Feels like I’m going against the grain of the other comments, but let me try to justify it. A lot of people are in bad relationships and are being treated poorly without realizing it. Letting someone know that something is a red flag might be the first step in them becoming aware that their partner is abusive. There’s no “mending” a narcissist.

That being said, a post will only ever give you a sliver of the whole story, which is why Internet relationship advice isn’t really reliable.

A lot of people post poor relationships in these places. I am not sure if all of them are real, but the real ones are certainly looking for help and not able to speak to the people around them for whatever reason. In the end we don’t owe anyone a relationship, even a familial one. “Give them a chance, they just made a mistake don’t throw your whole relationship away over (infidelity, abuse, etc), but they’re family” are pretty common and annoying because they make people stay in situations where they are clearly unhappy and are potentially being harmed. If people want to leave, there is no shame in that. It’s annoying on the internet because there is certainly a large amount of bot posts mixed in with real people who need help. Or people who describe horrible abuse and then defend their abusers…feels like rage bait.

Stop going on r/relationshopadvice

That sub has been incredibly toxic for years, probably since its creation

There is a very narrow margin of people online. Most are in bad circumstances or have poor social skills. Some of us have both.

There has been a lot of great responses in this thread that are spot on …BUT…

I was a social worker for a long time and you would be amazed how many therapist I worked with who pretty much refused to do couple’s counseling. The reasoning, typically the couple either collectively or individually are just looking for a “Permission” to end it.

I always thought “dump him” was followed by an unspoken “and give me a chance.” In other words, incel culture.

Might not be all cases, but that is what I generally assume when I see/hear about stuff like that.

My favorite is the stupidly hard line around cheating. Shit happens, relationships are complicated, it’s not an ultimate deal/trust breaker. I’ve had it happen to me and I’m still with them and we trust each other. I also realized there were needs of hers I was not fulfilling, so it wasn’t just her fault.

It makes me wonder if these are the same people that couldn’t handle adoption or someone else’s kid because it’s not “theirs”, rather than looking at it that a kid just needs a loving family.

How much of your life do you want to spend around people who make you unhappy? Generally, you can’t change other people, so if you’re unhappy enough to be posting about your relationship online for random people to comment on, you should at least consider cutting your losses and freeing yourself to find relationships that you actively enjoy being part of.

People are selfish. When you ask the internet what to do they will tell the most selfish thing possible and say “fuck whoever it hurts you need to look after yourself”

Because the people the spend all day on relationship subreddits are bitter and want everyone else to be.

I’ve noticed this on reddit.

There’s a lot of misogynists/misandrists/incels online.