• justsomeguy@lemmy.world
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    2 hours ago

    I think it’s mostly about the imbalance. If you struggle with mental health and have very limited capacity for social interaction then you can’t have a bunch of close friends because friendships require effort to maintain them.

    In general this is an issue of our time because we have to deal with a lot of information and communication in our day to day life (specifically work) so there’s not much juice/battery/spoons/whatever-you-want-to-call-it left at the end of the day.

    My parents would always tell me about how much harder their schedules were when they had to feed cattle and clean barns all day but those are physical tasks. They’d go socialize after all this work because their brains were craving it and ignoring some sore muscles is easier than ignoring a sore brain.

    • Isa@feddit.org
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      32 minutes ago

      Agreed, and since I do not crave for friendship or social interaction, I’m even fine with not having any friends. Yet there are still those who do crave for friendships, whilst simply not having the energy to invest into them adequately. And for those I still feel sorry. Because of what I see: it doesn’t make things easier for them.