Well, have you read the linked spoon theory? I ended a friendship once by not going to their birthday. I did nothing unavoidable and there was no option, no priority (unless loosing your normal even already part time job would be a valid option for you, to go to such a party) given. Yet still I hadn’t the energy left.
I was, back then, simply — not — able — to — show up!
I really hope, that you never find yourself under such conditions, like (just as an example) depression can put you into, but “show up to them” was an option, as easily realised as if I tell somebody who’s paraplegic to just stand up and walk.
Again, I don’t complain, that that ended a possible friendship (or even more maybe). I fully understood and still understands it. But it was simply not in my range, to just "show up. It might be hard to believe me there, but that’s all I can say about it.
Well, have you read the linked spoon theory? I ended a friendship once by not going to their birthday. I did nothing unavoidable and there was no option, no priority (unless loosing your normal even already part time job would be a valid option for you, to go to such a party) given. Yet still I hadn’t the energy left.
You’re supposed to sacrifice. Show up for them, stay awhile, do your best to have a good time. Even if you’re drained.
It was not that I would have been drained, no:
I really hope, that you never find yourself under such conditions, like (just as an example) depression can put you into, but “show up to them” was an option, as easily realised as if I tell somebody who’s paraplegic to just stand up and walk.
Again, I don’t complain, that that ended a possible friendship (or even more maybe). I fully understood and still understands it. But it was simply not in my range, to just "show up. It might be hard to believe me there, but that’s all I can say about it.
lol your friends want you to come and fake it even if you’re drained? They don’t sound like good friends then.