For me it’s time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don’t understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That’s it. I don’t understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn’t give you anything.
My wife will hear a song and go “Oh neat, it’s in 5/8.” And I’m like “How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?”
I feel you. I’ve made friends with a couple people like that over the last decade and I consider myself lucky. If I had a formula for making it happen, I’d have a lot more.
For me, that kind of connection is most likely to happen with highly sensitive introverts. That type of personality has an advantage in developing deep relationships. Rare, but not impossible to find while out and about. If all you meet is a single type of personality, I’d take it as a sign to look outside your current social circles.
I take that to mean that if you are weird then embrace it. That attracts other similarly weird people and those are the best kind. There’s no point in being liked for being someone you’re not so why pretend.