I honestly hate myself for still feeling this way at 23. Whenever I’m out, I always feel like the ugliest girl in the room, and it literally makes me feel completely worthless. It sucks watching how nicely everyone treats beautiful women. Nobody ever says anything mean to them. Guys are always looking out for them, and other girls always have their back. They get this pass in life that I’ve never had. No one has ever helped or protected me except my parents.I’ve learned to just rely on myself, because my parents won’t be around forever and nobody else gives a damn about me. Maybe this is how it should be.
Honestly you just outgrow that. It’s developmentally appropriate for teens/young adults to become obsessed with their looks. Then, you continue to develop yourself intellectually, engage in interests, and manage your mental health, and you move past that. Eventually you become brave enough to find a relationship and begin navigating life with another person. You learn that the way you treat others influences how they think of you way more than your looks. I’d suggest a dating book and also feeling good: the new mood therapy, because it’ll help you identify when you’re thinking irrationally.
Uh, disagree. I’m in my 40s and if you ask me people grow into it. I think they compare different things, but the social comparison game is more even stronger among older people. It’s perhaps, less about ‘looks’ and way more about status markers, like the size of your house, etc.