Is it that simple to not just take the criticism? People often criticize without asking for their advice. If it was that simple to ignore (not take) that everyone would be happy.
One of those brilliant concepts that seem obvious when you read them but you never think of them yourself.
I’m pretty good at absorbing zingers like this. I find that it’s not big revelations that we need, but something tangible we can build off of. This is something like that - it’s profound and simple at the same time. A lot of truth packed into one line. You can work with that.
? What I said was meant as a compliment - sorry if it somehow came across as a “zinger”.
It looks like they meant the thing that was posted when they said zinger
This.
Mind worms. Not the RFK style, but bits of info or perspective that worm their way into your brain and change how you think
That’s a dangerous way to live. It’s how we get echo chambers of people unwilling to challenge their own beliefs.
It’s a possible way to develop get echo chambers - the trick is being open to listening to both criticism and advice rather than taking only one of them.
I was just about to say something like that
This is just the slightly less evocative, “Your boos mean nothing, I’ve seen what makes you cheer.” -Rick Sanchez
Painfully simple. Wish I’d heard it before all cptsd.
For me, It depends on their expertise. If a mechanic tells me my brakes are going out, I listen, but if they try to give me medical advice, I’ll be more skeptical.
Except, hear me out, imagine they are a trusted mechanic. So if they say “hey, I’m not a doctor. But the mole I had that looked like that turned out to be cancer” - you might schedule with a dermatologist.
Surely that follows into the same point? You would go to then for mechanical advice, and should be receptive to their criticisms within that area, but less so for their medical advice.
What if you don’t go to anyone for advice…
Sometimes you should listen to others even if you dont want to hear the anwser.
Yeah there’s a fine line between being discerning and ignoring people giving you good advice because you’re too egotistical to believe anyone could give you advice.
Get better friends??
Some are incapable, some also just want to hear what they want to hear and never anything outside of their perview
What if I would, but I don’t like their advice?
I’ve had 3 friends tell me I should get on anti-depressants. I will not.
My therapist hasn’t suggested I take anti-depressants. And she has seen me when I was extremely sad. And I don’t want to get fat.
Or go through reduced libido more than I am already expecting too on HRT.
What if I would, but I don’t like their advice?
If you only do what they advise when it’s what you would have done anyway, that’s not taking advice, it’s just hearing confirmation. The idea is not to let people’s negativity mean anything to you unless their positivity does.
“I wouldn’t take your advice so I won’t take your shit”
Crop the two useless replies
done.
But without the example responses included, how will we know how to react to the content???
idk how I feel about that!
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You’re not my mom!
but, but… I don’t know you and wouldn’t go to you for advice!
This one really makes me think.
Once again it’s the premise that’s fucked up and not the conclusion: both advice and criticism aren’t something one should take only when one chooses to, and never without thorough inspection.
And now I imagine the sort of person that walks through life actively rejecting advice and criticism except from a few selected peers. Yep, I think I cracked this one.
The point is that you need to figure out which advice and criticism is useful. You shouldn’t dismiss everything but you shouldn’t accept everything either.
In my interpretation, this is not about “I know better than everyone else” but about “That person has hurt me so much in the past. Maybe I should not take their criticism to heart anymore.”
People dont live this way? If an individual doesnt prove themselves knowledgable and virtuous when asking for help or advice why the hell would I listen to their critiques?
Who are those people by whom you wish to be admired? Are they not these about whom you are in the habit of saying that they are mad?
